Many of us believe that February 14 is happily marked on the mental calendar of most people who count on reciprocated love.
Despite this, Valentine’s Day also has drawbacks. There are many criticisms made of festivities based on the purchase of gifts. Although most of them are based on morality, they are also From the field of study of psychology it is easy to find reasons to relativize the virtues and sensations that awaken in us during Valentine’s Day.
10 aspects of Valentine’s Day that will make you uncomfortable
Let’s look at ten reasons why this day is actually a double-edged blade:
1. Valentine’s Day is a mark on the calendar that makes you direct attention to a fundamental question : Do I have the partner I expect? If I don’t have it… what have I done wrong to not be able to celebrate this day? And Valentine’s Day is unique in making us raise the bar and, in fact, it is also unique in making the measuring bar itself appear out of nowhere.
2. Is it really mandatory to buy this? Not only because of the high environmental cost of mass marketing of roses, but also because of the emotional dependence that consumerism can create. And, let’s face it, Valentine’s Day has its roots in the tradition of giving things as gifts. Without these types of gifts, it becomes just another day. The question is: how much are we willing to spend on these gifts, and to what needs do they respond?
3. Valentine’s Day can precipitate a breakup in couples in crisis, according to a study carried out in 2004. It seems that this day can act as a catalyst for romantic relationships, making them more unstable and accentuating ongoing problems.
4. The gift also makes the business card function personal, a psychological phenomenon that could be summarized in: “that’s how fantastic I am and that’s how great the gift I offer you is.” You’ve seen American Psycho? Well that.
5. Valentine’s Day has another vanity component. Giving things to a loved one may seem like an act born from the heart and pure altruism, but it really is not like that at all. A study suggests that, for men, the main reason that leads them to give a gift is… The duty And also, with a difference.
6. The same study mentioned above indicates that 25% of men expect something in return for the gift 89% of those who buy lingerie, in fact, think about themselves. Go go.
7. Valentine’s Day, in conjunction with Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, are ways to compartmentalize the forms of love A love relationship that does not fit these definitions is less recognized, as if it had to be of less importance.
8. Haven’t we already said it? Valentine’s Day It has a “Saturday night” effect : Social pressure makes staying at home doing nothing depressing (and we already know that being at home with low spirits is a direct route to the refrigerator).
9. If you liked the movie Ameliaattention, because Valentine’s Day It is an attack against the philosophy of small details of the life. Going through the 24 hours of Valentine’s Day means crossing a kind of small Las Vegas in which a lot of huge, bright signs encourage you to savor love at your own pace, freely and just the way you want.
10. Last but not least, this is a date that reminds you of your partner’s questionable tastes when asking for or offering gifts. The Valentine’s card industry is a mine of nonsense.
In short, it can be said that Valentine’s Day is, like the rest of the days of the year, a moment in our lives that we must learn to don’t take ourselves too seriously Both for its shadows (the inability to fully live this day according to our expectations) and for its lights (the fact of believing that, unlike the rest of the days of the year, on Valentine’s Day the essence of pure love crystallizes) . Let’s get used to not letting social pressures dictate the way we have to live life with someone special.
