In this century in which modern life seems to go faster and that sometimes inclines us to adopt certain routines, we know that it is very easy to fall into monotony, even sometimes with our own partner.
Have breakfast together at the same time, leave for work at the same time, or have sex on the same days, at the same time
Monotony in intimate relationships
Sexuality is a very important part of life as a couple, as relevant as the feelings that are shared or how to get along in terms of the way of thinking or seeing life; so that A monotonous sexual life together can lead to boredom on the part of one or both a feeling of incompleteness, frustration or bringing the relationship to failure.
That is why today we will review ten ways you can renew your sex life and your partner’s to end that monotony.
1. Try new positions in bed
This is the law, the first step to direct your sexual life towards a more fun and pleasant plane. Maybe you will never get bored doing the classic “missionary” and your partner has probably told you that there is no position that excites him/her more than “the amazon” but why not try something different? You could find something much more pleasant They don’t lose anything by trying, on the contrary, they could gain a lot.
2. And what about oral sex?
We know that it is an activity surrounded by taboos, but performing good oral sex on your partner can be the spark you need to break the routine, especially if your partner is not expecting it.
If this proposal is not attractive enough for you, I leave you with some information that may encourage you to practice it. Research carried out by the State University of New York concluded that oral sex positively influences happiness of whoever practices it. The results revealed that this is because semen carries substances that combat depression, such as serotonin, thyrotropin and melatonin.
In addition to these substances, semen includes others such as cortisol, oxytocin and estrone, which lift general mood and are also related to improving cognitive performance.
And the men? Oakland University carried out an interesting study that concluded that those men who frequently perform oral sex on their partners become more excited and have greater resistance during intercourse.
This is because by performing this act, men are adjusting their copulatory habits, which Not only does it excite them more, but it also allows them to have better ejaculations The study involved 233 male volunteers who answered a series of questions about their sexual habits, arousal, their sexual encounters in general, and their relationship with a long-term partner.
3. Use sex toys
Are you celebrating a special occasion and don’t know what to give your partner? Take a look at a sex shop, I’m sure you’ll find something you both like.
4. Do it wherever (responsibly)
And I’m not just talking about the typical “in the shower.” Is it a beautiful starry night on the roof of the house? Well why not? Yes indeed, we have to be responsible it may be fun to do it in a public place (the famous practice of “dogging”), but surely your parents would not find it very pleasant to find a couple in the middle of the act at the door of their house.
5. Use the power of clothing
Has your partner ever told you that he or she would like to see you wearing certain underwear? It’s time to treat him, or you could also buy him something that you would like to see him wear.
Something much more daring? Play a role , from someone on television that you like, to the most typical (but not ineffective) such as dressing up as a firefighter, police officer, etc. You’ll be surprised how simple but powerfully effective it is to turn on your partner.
6. Give him a striptease
There is nothing more attractive and exciting for our eyes than seeing how the person we love dances sexy and sensually to us, who melts us. And this applies to both, not just women.
If you are a man, get rid of your shyness, rest assured that your partner will love it. It doesn’t matter that you are not a professional You don’t need to sign up for those striptease or pole dance courses either, just let yourself be carried away by the passion and rhythm of a good song, just remember that the slowness of the movements is the key to bringing out the most perverse side of your partner.
A tip: you can combine the previous point of characterizing a character with this one and thus get the most out of this practice.
7. Remember that love enters through all the senses
Starting from the fact that the main senses of the human being are five, we must make something clear; Although the sexual act is a fully physical activity where the sense of touch is essential, that is in no way an excuse to leave others forgotten. Excite your partner by provoking all his senses
You can use the fragrance that he likes the most, prepare some appetizers to share or eat them directly from his body using it as a plate, play a sensual playlist at the time of the event or sweeten his ear. Unfold your imagination and the next time you are going to have sex remember to be patient and turn on each of your senses first.
8. Talk it out
What better way to know what your partner likes and doesn’t like in bed than asking yourself ? Ask him what he wants, what he likes to do and what he doesn’t, or what he would like to try. In the same way. Don’t be shy when proposing a new practice to your partner, they will surely thank you for your sincerity.
To make it more fun and dynamic you can try a game of “True or False” in which each person dictates a statement about some sexual activity in which the other will have to guess if he likes it or not, this little practice Not only will it help you get to know each other more sexually, but it will also strengthen your relationship
9. Explore yourself
Ask your partner to masturbate in front of you, for two purposes. Firstly and most importantly, so that you learn. and secondly, for the exciting visual experience. Observe very carefully and ask him to tell you which parts are most sensitive for him/her.
It is also good to talk about the body parts they like to be caressed, kissed and stimulated. Remember that pre-coital games can make the difference between a pleasant experience and a totally pleasurable one.
10. Surprise him/her and be spontaneous
What if instead of going out where you always go every end of the month you decide to stay home and prepare a romantic dinner at home? What if you play Strip-Poker? What if tomorrow you say good morning by waking him/her up with a dose of sex? What if you send him a message when he’s at work telling him how much you wish he was in your bed at that moment? Innovate in sexual life is key.
Innovate in bed
If you got this far, it may be because you began to routine your sexual life as a couple to the point of falling into a risky monotony. You have reached a point where you need to do something different and that, of course, is excellent. But then what is the best way to combat monotony? Simple, is about being spontaneous
From now on, no dates, no ways, no established times to have sexual relations with your partner. From today, try to do it alone and when you want and in the way you want. Spontaneity will give the spark that was missing in your sexual relationships.