23 Signs That You Have A ‘toxic Relationship’ As A Couple
Relationships are almost always complicated In psychological consultation, mental health professionals usually see cases of couples who get along badly, to the point of reaching significant levels of stress and discomfort.
Today we will talk about the toxic relationships: those relationships in which at least one member of the relationship has totally inappropriate behaviors and attitudes, which can lead to a situation of psychological and emotional vulnerability for the other person.
Toxic relationships: boyfriends and girlfriends who make life impossible
Be careful, because even if there is love (or something similar), There are couples in which really dangerous dynamics occur, and which can border on psychological abuse
Cases of toxic relationships can be more or less severe, and In today’s article we have tried to detect and describe a total of twenty-three signals that a relationship may be going down a very bad path. Certain situations and circumstances may be more prone to these “differences” arising between the members of the couple.
The 23 signs that your relationship is toxic
On many occasions, people who are immersed in toxic love relationships are not able to realize that they are experiencing abusive situations. The love we feel towards that person can cloud our judgment and we can tend to forgive anything It is very common for these types of toxic attitudes to be “normalized” by the victim.
And even though family and friends may warn us that some things we are enduring are simply not acceptable, we can continue blindfolded. This article wants to help people who are in a courtship or marriage of these characteristics to improve their situation.
Let’s go with the 23 signs that your partner is toxic or is going through a moment in which it can cause conflict:
Control and jealousy attitudes
1. He resents you spending time with your friends or family.
2. Control your personal expenses, keep unnecessary control over your bank accounts, or ask you for explanations about your invoices.
3. Research your social networks and your mobile phone. Doesn’t respect your privacy.
4. Constantly ask about your schedules and plan your life without asking your opinion.
5. When he does you a favor, he demands that you compensate him immediately.
6. He belittles you and makes you understand that without him/her you would be nobody and would not be able to move forward.
7. At family gatherings or with friends, you avoid expressing your opinion about something for fear of being reprimanded or questioned again.
8. It is common for him/her to use emotional blackmail with you: if you don’t do what he/she wants, he/she gets angry.
9. You notice that every time you spend time with someone of the opposite sex, your partner becomes extremely upset and jealous, forcing you to no longer see that person.
10. He treats you with excessive paternalism and overprotection.
Attitudes of disrespect and conflict
11. He messes with the way you dress, tries to influence you in bad ways to change your style, etc.
12. Do everything possible to downplay your merits and virtues.
13. He downplays the problems you express, minimizing them and saying phrases like “that’s not a big deal,” “don’t complain about vice,” etc.
14. When an argument occurs, you always have to give in, because otherwise they could go days without speaking to you.
15. He blames you for problems he has in his work life or with other people outside the relationship.
16. He is always reminding you of all the failures and mistakes you made in the past.
17. You have stopped telling your family, friends and relatives about your relationship problems because you know that if he/she found out, he/she would be angry.
18. You avoid explaining problems or talking about certain topics with him/her because you know he/she would take it badly.
19. He addresses you with demands and bad manners very frequently.
20. Make decisions that affect both of you without asking your opinion, and even without informing you.
Toxic attitudes in the sexual sphere
21. You notice that you have sex with him/her even though you don’t really feel like it, just to please his/her desires or to prevent him/her from getting angry.
22. Blackmails you or demands that you perform sexual practices that you do not like.
23. He compares you to other sexual partners from his past.
Careful! We all have toxic attitudes at some point
We have been explaining all those attitudes and behaviors that can be a sign that your partner is toxic. But be careful, because It is very easy to see the faults in others and very difficult to criticize yourself
All of us, at some point in our lives, can make mistakes and have one or more failures like the ones we have described. Therefore, we must be careful when judging our partner. A toxic relationship will only be one in which, on a regular basis, several of the aforementioned problems occur. Anyway, Sometimes the situation can be redirected thanks to communication and good manners
In other couples, there may be no turning back and the relationship may be doomed to fail. It is the obligation of each person to carefully analyze the situation to know if it is worth trying to fix things.
