36 Signs That Will Help You Detect If You Are In A Toxic Relationship
Relationships can be complicated and go through bad times, but sometimes the crises are too frequent and the couple’s discomfort lasts too long.
These are relationships in which the personality of the members, the lack of trust between them, excess control or jealousy they turn the couple into a toxic courtship
It is common that many times people who are in a relationship of these characteristics are not aware of it, due to habit and inertia, or that they are not able to put an end to it. Therefore, in this article I have prepared a list of signs that will allow you to detect if you are in a toxic relationship.
Now, it should be noted that all At some point in our lives we can go through a bad stage, and the same thing happens in relationships. So even if some of these behaviors are manifested at some point, it does not necessarily mean that it is a toxic relationship. Couple relationships, in addition, in many cases can regain stability thanks to couples therapy.
Approval of love and lack of trust
Toxic courtships are often characterized by a lack of trust on the part of one of the two members of the couple, which makes it difficult for the relationship to stabilize Low self-esteem or excessive emotional dependence also make the relationship unhealthy. Some signs may be:
1. You don’t feel able to trust your partner when it comes to revealing something sensitive or talking to them about your emotions.
2. You or your partner constantly seek approval from love, because you are not comfortable with your life.
3. There is a great emotional dependence or emotional codependency on your part and/or theirs
4. You never seek emotional support from your partner because you don’t feel understood.
5. Your partner does not take into account your emotions and your relationship lacks moments of intimacy or emotional connection
6. He may treat you with excessive paternalism, making it difficult for the healthy development of the relationship.
Control attitudes
It is common for relationships in which there is excess control to be toxic, because communication does not flow and one prohibits the person from being free and having their own way of thinking. Control attitudes include:
7. Keep track of your accounts and your financial expenses, and ask you for constant explanations about any expenses.
8. Since he constantly controls you and appears aggressive, you avoid telling him about your problems because of the way he reacts.
9. Decisions that affect both are made by him or her. Does not take into account your opinion
10. Control your social networks and your phone conversations.
11. You try not to tell your problems to someone outside the relationship (for example, your family) in case your partner finds out.
Constant conflicts
Poor communication and toxic behaviors constantly create conflict. The atmosphere of the relationship is not tolerant and does not encourage reconciliation Some examples are:
12. Lack of communication causes constant conflicts between both.
13. You feel exhausted when you should feel happy to have the partner you have. This affects you in different spheres of your life: work, your relationships with others, etc.
14. You live in a hostile environment You know you shouldn’t be in that environment but you always end up coming back.
Lattice attitudes
Control over the partner and insecurity leads to jealous attitudes and behavior, which makes the partner unhappy. Both members suffer, and these behaviors may include:
15. Get angry when you spend time with friends and family.
16. Frequently ask about your schedule and question your version of events.
17. When you meet someone of the opposite sex, your partner gets angry.
Disrespect
A relationship It cannot be healthy when there is a lack of respect Trust and respect are basic pillars of any healthy relationship. These behaviors may appear in toxic couples:
18. He insults you regularly.
19. He doesn’t respect your opinion and undervalue your words, in public or in private
20. He does not pay attention to your achievements, and does everything possible to downplay your merits.
21. The lack of respect is such that even in front of others you try not to give your opinion since you are afraid of what they might say to you.
22. He is constantly criticizing the way you dress and the way you behave.
23. He never forgets the mistakes you have made in the past, so he brings them up again and again whenever he can.
24. He not only humiliates you in private, but also in public.
25. Your partner is not interested in things going well for you.
26. Your partner is more attentive to receiving than giving It is an asymmetric relationship.
Toxic attitudes in the sexual sphere
Sex is related to the well-being of couples, and there are many studies that corroborate this hypothesis. However, it is not a question of the quantity of sex, but rather the quality of intimate relationships. These behaviors may appear in toxic relationships:
27. Your partner doesn’t make you feel good about your body and your intimacy, and he does it on purpose.
28. You frequently have sexual relations without feeling like it, just to please them and avoid their anger.
29. He causes you to engage in sexual behavior that you don’t really want simply because he uses blackmail to achieve it.
30. He frequently compares you to his ex-partners to make you feel bad.
Blackmail and manipulation behavior
Emotional blackmail is characteristic of toxic courtships, and it is a very harmful but silent form of abuse in the couple. In the article “Emotional blackmail: a powerful form of manipulation in a couple” this topic is explored in depth. This psychological manipulation can manifest itself in the following ways:
31. When he acts to do you a favor, he seeks immediate compensation.
32. If you don’t do what he wants, he gets angry easily and blames you.
33. You feel undervalued and continually tells you that you are nothing without him or her
34. He never gives in in arguments. Either he or she is right or the fight gets out of hand. .
36. He blames you for his failures even those outside the relationship, for example, at work,
