5 Signs You Should Keep In Mind To Recognize A Narcissist
Narcissistic people often seduce us with their way of being, but can we recognize their tactics?
According to the Royal Spanish Academy, we understand the “P” as narcissistic.“A person who takes excessive care of his or her physical appearance or who has a high opinion of himself.”. After this definition we can understand that a narcissist is that person who is usually quite egocentric and does not take other people’s criticism very well. Well, appearance for him/her is usually everything. But can we recognize a person with these characteristics? exist 5 signs that we can take into account as a warning
They use the mirror technique to promote the perfect image and the high self-esteem that they want to show about themselves. They want you to think that you have found the perfect person for you, creating great confusion the moment you relax and let your guard down. It is at that moment when you ask yourself: “Is it too good to be true?” Well yes, it is, because it is not real. He’s just pretending to dazzle you.
2. They are only interested in themselves
There is only one thing that fascinates these people and that is themselves. When a person begins to tell something that has happened to him/her, the conversation always ends by talking about him/her, directing all attention to achievements that have happened to him/her. However, as you get to know the person, you realize that not everything is charisma, but that they are superficial and self-centered and have no interest in anything other than themselves.
When a narcissistic person refers to one of their ex-partners, they always disqualify them with something negative such as “he was unstable”, “he was crazy” or even “bipolar”. All their partners have “something” and he/she was never to blame for anything that had happened.
Likewise, they remain good friends, whether out of pity or for any reason. Although in reality the fact of having been able to manipulate them and create that manipulated reality that the narcissist likes so much is what makes him keep them close, to be able to continue receiving praise from people.
4. Double interest
Narcissistic people usually have two faces, the one where they show you where everything is perfect and you seem to love it and feel very lucky, and the other where they make you feel guilty for things that they themselves have done, but being so selfish people will never accept.
5. You know something is wrong, but you don’t know what
Narcissistic people often thrive at the expense of other people, which is why they surround themselves with people with low self-esteem and little self-love. It is an infallible tactic that they constantly repeat, creating illusions in some aspects, until they get what they want and that is when they put distance and may even mock you. In those moments is when you don’t understand what is happening because the situation has caused you discomfort, anxiety and they even describe you like their previous partners when you really know that that is not true.
First of all, don’t try to change the person. You will get more effort and individual wear and tear than you really expect and you will end up without having achieved anything.
Secondly, the best thing you can do is free yourself. Put your distance and surround yourself with people who raise your self-esteem and not the opposite. It’s not worth it to have someone like that by your side.
Finally, remember that you can always go to a psychology professional whenever you need it.
