The other day we talked about the Cinderella complex, a social and psychological phenomenon that leads many women to try to fit into the role of a fragile, dependent woman waiting for her prince charming.
Part of the existence of the Cinderella complex is due to the fact that, culturally, the role of a dependent woman continues to be valued as something desirable and close to virtue and purity In fact, until not so long ago it was considered that the highlight of the life of every female person was getting married and starting to take care of a home (that is, tying themselves to the domestic sphere).
That is why it is positive highlight the qualities of feminine roles characterized by character, assertiveness and the leadership capacity that can seem so revolutionary today, even if it appears untrue, in the world of couple and personal relationships.
Claiming independent women
What if we add the word “independence” to a concept that has traditionally been associated with submission to man? Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, heterosexual or not, it is good to reflect on the reasons why it is worth it fall in love with the figure of the independent and autonomous woman which is not interesting to please others, but mainly to please itself.
Below we will see some of the reasons why we should defend the figure of empowered women.
1. They know what they want in a relationship
By knowing yourself better than anyone else and being clear about your romantic perspectives the empowered woman does not mince words about the characteristics they look for in a partner, or even about defects and qualities in said hypothetical relationship.
2. Goals are set that they try to define
Another reason to fall in love with an independent woman It has to do with one’s own ambitions hopes for the future and convictions in different areas of your life, which is much more attractive than being with a person with few concerns or a conformist. There is nothing healthier than being with a person you admire and who offers the possibility of experiencing new sensations.
3. They drive towards improvement
An independent woman will push herself and the people in her life, she will try to achieve her own goals and the happiness of the individuals around her. The reason for this is your willpower necessary to consistently live a philosophy of life marked by self-sufficiency.
4. They are honest
Here we find another characteristic trait of a woman who empowers herself, and that is that goes with the truth ahead They will not try to smooth over any problems that exist with their partner if it means perpetuating a toxic relationship, but rather they confront the solution by saying exactly what they feel and think. And with that… see you later drama!
5. They learn from others
Constant learning is liberating, and that is why independent women are motivated and oriented towards acquiring new knowledge. This not only enriches their lives, but also allows others to have a person nearby with whom they can share many interesting and stimulating topics of conversation. In fact, developing your own criteria is necessary to avoid manipulation by other people.
Of course, it is not about accumulating knowledge and skills to impress a potential partner: this progress is valued as a type of personal growth that is positive in itself. Not to please someone , but to please oneself. This aspect defines the way in which independent women relate to their self-esteem.
6. They care about others
People usually fall or want to fall into the mistake that independent and empowered women tend to not care about the individuals around them. However, this is not so. The fact of suffering the pressure of cultural remains that remain anchored in machismo makes this class of people accustomed to weaving networks of solidarity with others They are there when you need them and where you need them.
7. They know how to listen and give advice
Due to their lived experiences, they will give the best advice in things in which they are experts, since they have full knowledge of the people around them, as well as themselves thanks to the fact that they have developed a relatively high degree of self-knowledge (a consequence of having faced many challenges autonomously).
8. The perfect companions for traveling
Nothing is more appropriate than the company of the self-sufficient woman, since it is the most convenient for those trips and adventures in which getting lost in unknown areas without a predefined plan and he is a lover of all things that allow him to see the world from another point of view.
Psychological emancipation
Many statistical data and reports that have to do with the domestic sphere ensure that women take an average of four years longer to become independent from their family home than men. However, emancipating oneself both economically and psychologically is a step that empowered women set as a goal and that, where the appropriate circumstances exist, they manage to take.
Of course, this is not achieved simply by working individually. If the independent woman is something so “exotic” it is, among other things, because behaving as autonomously as a man is still penalized in many ways. For example, in work meetings, female workers who give their opinion with the same frequency as their male colleagues of the same rank are frowned upon, according to some research.