It is clear that breakups are not always experienced in the same way nor do they bring with them the same emotional impact; While for some they are easy to cope with, for other people they can be a real blow to their mental and physical health. Precisely this complexity makes it difficult in many cases to emotionally process these situations in the appropriate way. In the most extreme cases, a person who has gone through a very painful breakup can take years to recover, losing all kinds of opportunities to rebuild their life.
Luckily, psychology professionals specialized in couple relationships and psychotherapy have been studying this type of problems for decades; That is why today there are a series of tools and Very useful strategies to successfully overcome a romantic breakup. In this article we will review those that are easiest to apply on a daily basis, integrating them with the rest of the routines.
These are the best behavioral guidelines and habits to overcome a breakup.
1. Exercise regularly
Psychological rumination is one of the characteristic consequences of the breakup of a couple: the person who is having a bad time spends a good part of the day thinking about the same type of distressing thoughts, partly because he wants to and partly because those mental contents (painful memories, catastrophic predictions about his love life, etc.) arise in his mind. consciousness again and again automatically.
In this sense, practicing sports regularly is one of the greatest sources of well-being that we have in our daily lives and constitutes a good method to keep the mind busy in a moment of special vulnerability while we release endorphins that make us feel better. It helps a lot to break the vicious cycle of psychological rumination.
2. Stick to a clear sleep schedule
To start organizing our new life and prevent the appearance of sleep disorders such as insomniatriggered by rumination and problems associated with anxiety, it is advisable to strictly adhere to a clear sleep schedule, based on going to sleep at the same time daily and getting up at the same time.
Changing your life schedules to more responsible and adaptive ones is also a good way to get over a breakup and start taking control of your life; Otherwise, it is likely that in the post-breakup stage we will have a hard time falling asleep and this will cause other problems during the day, making us more vulnerable to anxiety and stress.
3. Develop a new hobby
To start a new life after the breakup, there are many hobbies that we can embark on with the aim of keeping our minds busy and finding new sources of satisfaction connected to ourselves and our autonomy. This is important, because In many cases, a large part of the hobbies and free time of people with a partner have to do with being with that other person.and with the breakup these dynamics are truncated.
Some of the new hobbies that we can include in our daily lives could be learning a language, starting to play a sport, learning to cook on our own, reading, starting to watch a series or starting an academic course of any kind.
Another of the most common and classic ways we have to overcome a breakup is expressing our feelings in writing in a personal journal.
By maintaining this type of personal expression for some time we will be able to “remove” all the pain, anguish or discomfort we feel, and organize our ideas to give them coherence and analyze our past and our present in a harmonious and reasonable way. It is a process that has great therapeutic value and is used by many psychologists with their clients based on a principle known as “emotional labeling”: the emotions that we can express with signifiers no longer have so much power to wear on us.
5. Maintain an active social life
Psychological professionals recommend not closing in on oneself after a romantic breakup that generates psychological discomfort and continuing to maintain a social life that is as active as possible with both friends and close family.
Thus We will have the support of our loved ones in a moment of sadness or discomfort and we will be able to express our feelings with total freedom and without fear of being judged. no way. In turn, this openness to others will open the doors to new opportunities to reconnect with the world and feel satisfaction in new facets of reality perfectly compatible with being single.
6. Use social media less and meet face to face more
Nowadays, more and more people are developing a greater or lesser dependence on social networks. This sometimes leads them to be aware of their mobile devices for a large number of hours throughout the day.which exposes the person to falling into the dynamic of reviewing the social media profiles of their exes.
In this section, it is worth highlighting again the importance of expressing one’s feelings in the face of a relationship breakup, whether in writing or verbally to an interlocutor.
After a painful breakup, it is also recommended to talk in depth about what happened with close people, both to express the internal emotional world and to obtain advice or an alternative vision or opinion of what has happened.
8. Practice Mindfulness
Psychology and health professionals have been studying the positive effects that the practice of Mindfulness has for several years when treating a wide variety of physical and emotional disorders.
Mindfulness is currently one of the most used practices associated with meditation by more and more people around the world and its usefulness has been demonstrated in cases of stress, anxiety, sadness or discomfort due to relationship breakups, physical pain, interpersonal deficits or low self-esteem.
Related article: “What is Mindfulness? The 7 answers to your questions”
9. Go to the psychologist
Another of the fundamental routines to overcome a breakup is to go to a psychologist to work on any psychological alteration derived from the new situation that may affect the person in their daily life.
A psychologist specialized in giving therapy will offer various tools and strategies that can help us overcome our breakup both emotionally and psychologically and the main alterations that are usually worked on in their consultations are low self-esteem, cases of anxiety, depression, situations of stress or sadness. widespread.
In this sense, if you are looking for psychotherapy services, we invite you to contact us. In Cribecca Psychology We serve people of all ages and offer in-person and online sessions by video call.
