All humans have something in common and yet each person is absolutely unique. It’s hard for us to remember.
In the comings and goings of everyday life we catch ourselves looking at the clock, going up, going down, enjoying, doing, working, resting, eating… And there is almost no space left to perceive ourselves. So much so, that during a single day the emotions happen like a roller coaster, going from moments of being very well, doing what we “have”, to moments of setbacks that can lead us to feel discontent, anger, sadness and even pain.
Likewise, the laughter of a specific moment, an unexpected encounter, a surprise, a boy or girl or a loved one can lead us to feel joy, carefree and even a happiness that feels full and real in just an instant.
And so we spend life, living day after day with a goal (or not) ; and each of us lives it in his own way, so personal and non-transferable that it is impossible to clone the emotions felt. There may be two people who do exactly the same thing in their days, but they do not live it in the same way. Even so, all of us, absolutely each and every one of the human beings, have an end, here, death, which is the known end to this journey along a path full of experiences that we experience and that touch us, that change us, that They complete what they have experienced.
In our journey – it is well known and socially accepted by all – we visit different health professionals; our body deteriorates or suffers circumstances that need attention. And we give it to them.
We go to the doctors, for example to a family doctor to help us deal with unusual pain, to a digestive doctor to see what is happening with those daily stomach cramps, to an orthopedic surgeon for a pain in a muscle or a fracture in bones, to a pulmonologist for an infection in the respiratory system, to an oncologist when we know that our body suffers from cancer… and thus the list of health professionals dedicated to the “physical” “body” expands like a wide range, caring for and treating diseases that damage our body, that weaken us and make us feel bad.
And what happens when it is our mind that suffers?
What do we do when we can no longer handle what we are feeling and living “inside”? It is not something that is seen, only one suffers from it. That “regret” that goes inside and how we understand it (or not) it accompanies us every moment and hurts us. They may be routine circumstances that we go through that become difficult for us to handle; They can be sudden situations that happen to us and we cannot process; There can be as many things as there are humans in the world, “things” that burden us emotionally, making life heavier, more difficult, darker.
Everything that happens to us has an impact on our body, but also on our mind, affecting our way of thinking, acting, and feeling. There are experiences that we perceive as unbearable that have a direct effect on our way of being, they mark us and leave (literally speaking) a mark. These traces also make us who we are, especially when we can look them in the face and accept them. I am referring not only to the metaphorical traces, but literally to the ‘physical’ traces in our brain, which, just like in our body, weigh and are noticeable. So much so that they even mark our way of seeing life, of interacting with others, of perceiving the world around us.
It is so accepted that the body deteriorates and the brain is a fundamental part of it, even today – although luckily less every day – it is still taboo to take responsibility for what we feel, to admit that it is difficult for us, that we cannot or cannot. we want to continue.
It is natural to go through less good times. It is also natural to face situations that we did not seek and that occur, and we do not want to accept. And it is also natural to be overwhelmed by moments and circumstances that rob us of balance and peace.
If your body complains with the passage of time, your mind, which accompanies it every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every month, every year of your life, from the moment you open your eyes upon coming into this world until you You close them to leave him… Your mind hurts too. And when your mind can find tranquility and calm by living what you live, then your body responds too. We are beings in which duality is symbiotic, a two-way road that needs to be seen.
The role played by Psychology
There are different specialties in Psychology. As an eye doctor is not specialized to tell you what type of fracture you have in a bone, neither is a psychologist. But there are various specialties, as occurs in medicine, with different techniques, models and structured therapies that have been investigated and show effectiveness in different emotional ailments and/or so-called mental illnesses.
It is wise to go to a qualified professional to open doors to understanding and integration of what you are going through, it is your right to look for options that can give you something more to overcome what you are experiencing.
And I keep asking myself, for many years now: When will we talk about a “headline psychologist”?
