Recover Your Self-esteem To Achieve Your Personal Transformation
Recovering your self-esteem is rebuilding the path to happiness and learning to become who you really are. Do you wonder why? Because it is that innate feeling of unconditional love that gives us security and personal well-being. It is the thermometer of your self-esteem, and if it is positive, it fills you with confidence, authenticity, opportunities and creativity..
Life, in every circumstance, calls us to move forward and to do so we have to spread our wings and take the main flight towards our own destiny. It is worth reflecting on why, when we were children, we could be considered nosy, naive, spontaneous and optimistic. It turns out that we were curious, trusting, open and self-assured. It seems that throughout life we make wrong adjustments to the demands of everyday life. As if it were better to be someone different from who we are, to fit into pre-established demands or models, thus attacking, without realizing it, our mental health..
Reconquering your self-esteem is like going through a journey that requires time, because you must learn to discover and design a new relationship with yourself. Where a sense of desire, ability and merit can arise. A “I want, I can and I deserve it”, as described in a motivational children’s song. You have to crave it, feel capable and deserving at the same time, beyond your own limiting beliefs.
Many people’s experience does not always begin like happy stories; It turns out that there are many dysfunctional families. This is not always the case, but if you did not receive protection, unconditional love and a sense of belonging within your home, from your parents or caregivers, it is possible that you came to believe that you are not deserving, that your needs are not important, or even , that you are the problem and the reason for the difficulties. This transforms into limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind, and somehow, you begin to form your protective layers to survive and adjust.
When you need to protect yourself, you demonstrate certain characteristics in order to survive, such as:
If any of that sounds like you, even if it’s hard for you to realize it, I want to tell you that you have the right to be happy, have your limits respected, and be treated well.
Society and Self-esteem
Our society does not look after the common good and our families are not protecting their children and young people with dedication, attention, encouraging them to find “that” where they can be themselves, doing what makes them feel good and gives meaning to their own existence. . Even making their own mistakes, but discovering their place in the world.
There is a saying that “from every crisis, the option to be reborn arises.” It would then be like reinventing yourself in the face of the need to value yourself positively, to be born again, to decide that change that will help you develop, grow and fulfill yourself in a more complete way, in harmony with your being.. Because self-esteem evolves, changes and develops in relation to the environment and your reaction to events.
Identification of Erroneous Beliefs
The first thing is to identify if you neglect yourself, consider that you are worthless, that you are not worthy of affection, if any of these facades or erroneous beliefs cover you. You are responsible for providing yourself with respect, acceptance and appreciation. Keep in mind that others are not responsible for your unhappiness. It does not depend on what others think of you, nor what you do, what you have, what you know, who you relate to or what you look like, on the contrary, it obeys what you think and believe about yourself. Something known and recognized is that no one can make you feel less if you don’t allow them to. Only you give that power to the other.
To visualize it more clearly, it is worth recognizing that there are people who act in a frank and direct manner, who do not need to protect their image, they have a high and stable self-esteem. However, some, when faced with frustration or threat, may show a tendency to defend their point of view and not accept different ones, also showing high self-esteem, but lacking stability. Which is common in people with depressive tendencies.
It is important to know these levels because we can identify ourselves and also recognize the other. Similarly, there are individuals who are not capable of being self-critical or correcting their own mistakes, revealing false self-esteem or “inflated self-esteem.”
On the contrary, when faced with external events, some may dismiss themselves and not promote their personal image, because their self-esteem is low. Unfortunately, they do not question being different, nor do they recognize the possibility of being worthy of recognition and appreciation, demonstrating instability. On the contrary, when an event is successful, your self-esteem goes up, but if the result changes, and it is negative, your level of self-esteem goes down again.. Because really, their self-esteem is also low, but lacking stability.
Avoid Low Self-Esteem
Avoiding the discomfort of low self-esteem will not help you either. The goal is positive self-esteem, the option to respect and love yourself, as a personal commitment. Even considering that there are moments that demand a pause, calm down to be able to resolve, perhaps even go back, to observe again and move forward. Sometimes we need to detach ourselves from some beliefs to allow room for what we desire and require. What factors precede high or low self-esteem?
I want to encourage you to give yourself an opportunity to recognize your qualities, and if necessary, seek professional support, to achieve your personal transformation. You’re worth it. You can always change and make the storms of your life transform into your will, the strong winds propel you and the anxieties recede like a flower in a river..
The courage to grow and allow yourself to become who you are is within you, that is where you have to look. Be encouraged by yourself, listen to yourself, but pay attention, because you may think things that are not true, that distress you or make you suffer. Stop to notice if you are driven and encouraged, or if, on the contrary, you judge yourself and become discouraged.
Listening to what your emotions want to tell you is important to treat yourself humanely. If you feel afraid, calm down because it is natural. Validate what you feel to take control and push you to move forward. The time will come when you will notice that your life is better, you will perceive your place in the world. Your flight will rise. You don’t have to rush, trust without forcing growth, enjoy living the process and the difference comes, you achieve the transformation and you can be who you are!
