A high percentage of the world’s population abuses themselves on an ongoing basis.either based on the opinions of others, or when things do not go as expected and/or worked.
This is accepted in our society because it is confused with self-demand and achievement, as well as the desire to improve.
The difference lies in how we treat and evaluate ourselves based on the results of our actionsor, the behavior and opinions of others of us.
Self-esteem, self-respect, are the abilities to love and value ourselves, whether we are successful or not. It is about trusting ourselves and knowing how to forgive ourselves despite our mistakes, and not doubt or mistreat ourselves because of the opinions of others.
The key is how we face obstacles and how we talk to ourselves. In telling ourselves “I have failed” versus “I am a failure”.
The self-abuse that we do to ourselves when our self-esteem fails us is successfully worked through through unconditional self-esteem. Also through our internal dialogue, because we become our worst enemies.
What can be done?
Applying appropriate therapeutic strategies and techniqueswe can make a person change aggressive and unfair judgments towards themselves to achieve a full and healthy life.
People continually come to me with poor self-esteem and intense self-treatment, which affects them by blocking their behavior and preventing them from enjoying all the good events that do happen in their lives, making appropriate interpersonal relationships difficult.
Those are the main reasons why it is important to seek professional help faced with these kinds of problems.
Whatever your situation, the most important person in your life is you. AND you cannot deliver the best version of yourself if you do not accept yourself and you love yourself in a fair way. Unconsciously, you will be treating others the way you treat yourself, or in a distorted way based on the judgment and approval you expect from others, belittling yourself and punishing yourself excessively.
It is terrible to live with constant self-reproach, or always on the defensive. Seek help and don’t be ashamed of it. Success is not always doing things well, but in our attitude towards ourselves and towards life, and our way of facing problems. If you are looking for psychotherapeutic support, I invite you to contact me.
