Why do we dream about our ex-partners even though a long time has passed since the relationship broke up? What is the cause of the return of said torment?
There are many times in which you have woken up in the morning, to your regret, thinking about your ex. This is because previously, at night, you dreamed about your former partner. But what causes us to dream about our ex-partners? A priori we believe that we have not overcome it, but in reality there are many more explanations that it is worth being aware of so as not to blame ourselves.
Through this article I invite you to reflect on why we dream about your ex-partner so that you understand the mysterious (or not so mysterious…) meaning of dreaming about your ex.
In dream reality our unconscious is revealed; The subconscious tells us about some aspects of our life and of ourselves that we cannot (or do not know how to) solve when we are awake.
Paying attention to the details…
As I have previously implied, Dreaming about your ex-partner does not mean that you still have feelings for her or him It is a fairly common fact that while we sleep we project the image of that person who was part of your life without this being linked to an emotional attachment. To realize this, it is vitally important to analyze the details of the dream (how you felt towards him or her, if something was happening between the two of you or not, etc.).
Dreams are symbolic, their meaning is never literal and, therefore, They are not a reflection of a reality that is faithful to ours (although there are certain elements that are)
For example, if you dreamed that you were kissing your ex-partner, it does not mean that you are still in love but that you probably have the need to be loved and that need is materialized in your ex-partner, in a certain way because our unconscious takes the references experienced through our experience. In summary; We cannot evoke what we have not experienced, it would be absurd and not very pragmatic in terms of solving our problems.
I want to stop dreaming about that person and I can’t!
Another reason why we dream about an ex is because either we are not happy with our current partner or we are not satisfied with our single life.
These dreams are associated with positive feelings and emotions (love, tenderness, etc.) but always with an undercurrent of melancholy that manifests itself upon waking up. Although in appearance both situations are different, they have in common that the subconscious is showing us that we have emotional and love deficiencies; It would be appropriate for you to start valuing yourself and surround yourself with people who love you
Pending accounts…
Another of the most common reasons why we dream and think about an ex-partner is that there were unresolved tensions. When a relationship ends badly or when you have not had a moment to express your emotions and thoughts, it is possible that dreams form in the form of mild nightmares, nightmares that want to tell us that we have a pending conversation with our ex-partner and that they will not disappear. until we talk to him/her. So now you know, be brave and face the ghost of your ex!
Insecurity may be another cause, especially when you are starting a new relationship where you live in a similar context compared to when you were with your ex-partner. Our mind is sensitive to stimuli and memory will repeat the memories you experienced with your ex by associating them with the new relationship.
If when you dream about your ex you are sad, you experience anger or any other negative emotion, it means that we feel insecure and/or fear of starting with our new partner. We weigh the possibility that we will repeat the mistakes of the past and of course…we do not want to repeat that situation. In a way, it is a wake-up call from the unconscious to avoid making the same mistakes again. It is not something negative, by being aware of it we can have the full will to change things.
I am an assasin?
A common but quite macabre dream is that we murder our ex-partner Don’t worry, that doesn’t mean you’re a psychopath. This dream only means that everything that united you with your ex has metaphorically died, and that therefore you are ready to start a new relationship.
A possible way in which anxiety is expressed
When we suffer from anxiety or stress and we are not with our partner, we can dream about our ex to feel supported. Relationships are a matter of two, if you are going through a bad time it is normal for your mind to evoke a substitute for your partner so that you can feel better. It is a deception of the psyche
Definitely: Dreams are not always a direct reflection of our existence (but they are always an indirect reflection that advises us) and we don’t always have a good perception of them. To learn from dreams it is necessary to pay attention and not give them more importance than they really have from an emotional point of view. So now you know, face your ex-partners!
