Attracting women who seduce you is not a gift, it is what nature dictates. And going against nature has its consequences
However, it is something that the majority of “flirts” or seducers around the world have not yet realized. And these apply the formula completely the opposite.
And yes, applying a “quick formula”—a shortcut—can bring short-term results. Some doubtful and little-reaching results, actually. But, like foam, like miracle diets, like pyramid investments and a long etcetera, Those results will fade as quickly as they “emerged.”
Then—and just as you have surely been a victim in some field in your life—you will be a victim of the “rebound effect”: Not only will you not have achieved anything solid, but, probably, the next time you have to try again new, it will cost you even more.
The Male Attraction Pyramid: what is it and what does it teach us?
Eye! Do not interpret this as something “reactive” with the rest of the men who try to do what they “good can”. It actually saddens me to see that they haven’t understood anything. They have not understood that, like Maslow’s food pyramid or pyramid of human needs, the pyramid of male attraction is posed completely the opposite
In fact… Have you paid attention to the formulation of the opening sentence?
Instead of building it from the “masculine” perspective—which would be: trying to seduce the women you are most attracted to… Which implies an active role—, we have adopted a feminine psychology Something that, if you realize, happens when, as a man, you stand out considerably.
Daniel Vecino — The hero’s plan
The women who seduce you have seen something special in you
To make it very obvious, think of great male role models: artists, actors, athletes, successful businessmen.
Specifically, think about a famous singer. Far from having to make inhuman efforts or strategies so that some woman, sporadically, decides not to reject a sexual encounter with him, it happens that “curiously,” she has the “obligation” to express her most “frugal” side—that is, vulnerability, imperfection, defects—, to overcompensate for all that exuberant worth and thus be able to project closeness, familiarity, humanity… Well, this is the only way to lower his presence to a threshold where they—normal women—connect with him.
Hence, most of his lyrics “reek of nerdiness”—no offense intended. I mean that, You, as a man who cultivates himself every day to improve his current version, do not feel that you connect at all with that message that we would describe as “pink porn.”
Men who apply terribly wrong strategies
And that is why, when a mere mortal—who has not understood anything—tries to apply the lyrics of those songs, he “dies” in the attempt. What you need most, precisely, is what those great successful men have the most: “courage.” So, you must work on what you are best at and learn to “show it.” Eye, show itNo prove it That is, you must do it subliminally and effectively.
But that is a topic for another article. Let’s continue with what we have to do…
What does seduction look like from the female perspective?
On this occasion, I want to show you what human courtship looks and feels like through the eyes of a woman… when she meets a “regular” man
And this is a very important detail because the rules of the game are totally different.
In this way, I hope you begin to realize that you should become the kind of man who has stopped seducing—freeing yourself from all the negative burden it carries for your subconscious—and started attracting.
Now, sit back and enjoy how you look—if you don’t stand out—from the most honest and profound perspective of a woman.
Human courtship—of the mediocre man—from the eyes of a woman
1. I will never take the initiative
And when I use the words “never” and “initiative,” I not only mean that I will never be the one to start the conversation, but—unless I am especially “sensitive” on those dates and need to “get going”—I don’t I will move forward in no time. If you want something, you’ll have to work very hard for it no matter how much I want to.
And wake up, there are many others interested and my patience has a limit…
2. It’s not that I don’t know how to flirt, it’s that you don’t inspire me
Flirting, for an attractive woman like me, is not a challenge —except finding the perfect man. Basically, because there is nothing that attracts men more than knowing how to show off your best attributes — and that has no relationship with dressing like “anyone.”
On the other hand, It is a big problem, because with a strategy like this, you are going to attract everything Especially slugs.
If you can’t stand out in the first seconds and get my attention… “next”. I have no time to waste, there is a lot to “distill”. Mediocrity abounds and contributes very little.
3. I am not false out of malice, I simply have other interests
It is very likely that what you are telling me does not interest me at all How is it then that I have a big smile, keep my gaze on you and seem to listen with enthusiasm?
One thing is what you see and another is what may be floating around in my mind. Let’s say that, inside, I have other plans.
It may be that I want to make another boy who I had something with and who now seems disinterested, “nervous” – jealous of championship. A very “sensual” conversation with you—apart from testing you—could set off alarm bells for my “real” target. Or, in the worst case scenario, show me that it was just a romp and that he really isn’t interested in me—bitter, but better to know as soon as possible to turn the page. In which case, you could be in luck… if you pass the millions of tests that await you
I can also be less twisted and simply seek some peace of mind. To do this I prefer to “pretend” that I have chosen you to “try my luck” that night and, in reality, you are the one I trust the most who will not try anything. This way, I get rid of all the flies—harmless but very annoying—and those I don’t feel safe with—because they could end up trying something I don’t want to happen. So, thank you for allowing me to be calm, “little bear.”
4. I know how to differentiate perfectly between confidence and arrogance
Going “macho” and bragging about what you have or have achieved does not show you as a man of integrity I quickly perceive that you are trying to compensate for shortcomings.
Every time I’ve had the privilege of meeting a man with comprehensive confidence, I’ve marveled at how little need for validation he displays. The total—and so healthy—disinterest in trying to impress me and that very attractive attitude of caring very little about what I criticize about him because he feels very comfortable with his congruence. Because he has solid foundations, a firm base… he is a man about whom you can feel firm, secure – and to whom you can give yourself blindfolded… And I’m going to stop talking about a man like that because I get “bad.”
5. Your presence is the most important thing
While for you – the common man – the most important thing is “what you see” – and in your personal case, how you see yourself –, For me, what I see is important, it is a minimum, but it is not enough
To do this, you must be able to understand the difference between “appearance” and “presence”.
As it is already well explained in the following video, I refer you to it.
6. I am very clear about what I don’t want
And since what I want is not so clear to me, I better dedicate myself to what I am best at: discarding
Maybe I was wrong about you and you deserve a second chance. With all due respect, for me that is irrelevant because there are so many to choose from that, surely, any other one that is “worth it” will serve me well.
Also, if you give up after a first rejection, are you really worth it?
I’m afraid that, in that case – friend -, you have “accepted” that no. Of course, do not confuse persevering with being annoying.
7. I know, I’m your only option
And not precisely because I am talking to a selective man who only allows access to “his heart” to “the chosen one” but because you have also failed with the previous ones
In fact, when I meet a man who makes me feel like he’s a winner, I automatically assume I’m not the only one—regardless of whether that’s true. And if I want to aspire to that privilege, I will have to show that I am much more than a pretty face and an amazing body.
8. Being so attractive can be a curse
It may be the envy of those who have not been lucky enough to be born with such sexy genes—or do not know how to take advantage of them or do not have the determination to work hard to reach their maximum potential—, but the truth is that everything has its bad side
Although it’s true that I wouldn’t change myself for a worse version of myself—I’m not crazy! And yes, I continue to strive to improve myself every day—with great power comes great responsibility. And a big responsibility in the wrong hands can be a real nightmare.
Do you know the “unpleasant” men that I encounter in my daily life and who try to get my attention in the most unfortunate ways? I am convinced that being a hottie is not something we are all prepared for. That’s why I understand that many don’t even try.
And, at first it may seem very nice – especially in youth – but as the novelty – feeling irresistible – becomes everyday life and finally monotony – men’s behavior is repeated every day like an endless pattern -, Life becomes predictable and boring. To the point where you don’t want to go out alone to give yourself a break or you don’t want to go anywhere and mingle with everyone… out of self-love.
This is why it is important to understand the effect you have on others and learn to manage it appropriately Something not easy, but necessary, if you want not only to have mental health, but also a full life — there are wonderful men waiting for you if you know how to manage “your power.”
9. The more I am attracted to you, the more I will criticize you
This is something that has been very difficult for me to understand, but it has been magical for my emotional and mental health.
To sum it up very, very much, As a woman, I am attracted to a man who is confident and does not need me But that makes me feel very, very insecure. Therefore, I need to verify that I am important enough to him that I can trust that he wants the best for me.
This leads to endless contradictions. Contradictions that are like fire and air: They cannot exist without each other but require balance Too much of either can destroy the other.
For example:
I hope I have helped you with a little light and have dissuaded you to walk the right path.
In conclusion
As you have seen, The way you see the world is completely different and, without that information, you not only play at a disadvantage but you are “out.”
On the other hand, the only way to unleash your irresistible attractiveness is by understanding the psychology behind it and learning to apply it to your personal case. And, you will agree with me that the greatest experts on attractiveness are women.
So tell me, what has surprised you about this feminine vision? Have you had a similar experience? Do you have anything else to contribute? I’ll wait for you in the debate, below, in the comments.
