All people have a series of messages or ideas that we have received and that have been transmitted to us, consciously or unconsciously, and that can be decisive at certain moments in life.
In stages of proper functioning, in which things are going well and we seem to keep up with what is happening, it may seem that these messages are hidden or dormant, that it is not necessary to pay much attention to them or that they do not appear with a clear presence. and determining.
On the other hand, in moments in which we feel unbalanced, or that we have to make decisions or, perhaps, face changes, then they appear and become determinants.
How do the life messages that we internalize influence us?
These life messages They can be presented as limiting beliefs, empowering beliefs and, in both cases, they will be a perception of what surrounds us with a very decisive negative or positive charge.
Limiting life messages
Limiting beliefs are preconceived ideas that will limit the ability to respond or react to certain circumstances that occur, under the limiting idea and thought that we are not capable of moving forward or achieving something different from what we interpret as what we have in front of us.
From this perspective, the vision of what is happening, what we would call reality, is presented as something threatening, negative and in the face of little or nothing we can do. In this scenario, we find ourselves in the role of victims that blocks us and prevents us from continuing to advance, evolve or work towards certain objectives.
These beliefs do not have to be validated from an objective point of view It may be enough to think and feel them as a valid concept from one’s own thinking or from a thought that has been given to us, on many occasions, by the environment or by one’s own family.
Examples
On this scale we would have countless examples; some are very basic like “everything goes wrong for me”, “I’m no good at dealing with people” and others can be more complex and refer to life, the human being or personal relationships: “love is suffering”, “ “Work is the most important thing in life”… These are just a few examples within immense possibilities. Most beliefs are endorsed by ideas and life messages that have been repeated to us or we have repeated to ourselves many times during our lives.
Empowering life messages
There are also empowering life messages that become beliefs that allow you to move forward and overcome challenges or changes that occur. These beliefs allow you to connect with your skills and learning to apply them to new things and challenges. These encourage you to test yourself and find a way to bring out the best version of yourself. When we develop empowering beliefs, we are able to prioritize our own needs and not just attend to those of others.
How to manage them?
If the beliefs that determine attitude and behaviors are limiting, the good news is that they can be changed The way to do it requires training and commitment and following a series of steps.
The first is to properly identify that belief and the thought or thoughts that support it. It is also necessary to question those thoughts and try to question them, perhaps tracing how they were formed, if they are based on a comparison with other people or situations.
The next step will be replace that belief with a new one that is empowering, build it and repeat it so that it becomes a new belief of your own, sustain it in a new commitment and turn it into a challenge to develop. It will be necessary to link it with concrete actions that are linked and that bring closer to a new result.
So that, It is very important to be attentive to the life messages that we transmit, because if they are limiting, we will be clipping the wings of the person to whom we transmit them ; while if they are enhancers, we may be giving a powerful tool to that person to face the future and feel capable of facing changes, challenges and testing themselves without disabling, non-validated limits.
To build this type of message, you can draw attention to positive actions considered achievements or progress, reinforce them and support them so that they are a springboard for growth. If we focus on the negative, on what has not been achieved or on the limiting fears that must be overcome, this growth is blocked and those limits are established that will continue to do so much damage in the future.
