Types Of Seducer: Which Of These 10 Seducer Archetypes Are You?
Why do people with such different personalities flirt? What characteristics should a good seducer have? What can attract about your personality? Are you charismatic and you don’t know it?
Types of seducer: which one do you identify with most?
In The art of seductionthe psychologist Robert Greene describes up to nine archetypes of seducers. Or ten types of seducer, if we take into account the figure of the anti-seducer. In this extensive book you will find a historical and psychological analysis of the great personalities of humanity.
It is not enough to know techniques or stratagems to attract and be a great seducer. Sometimes, self-knowledge is the key to knowing your strengths and how they can work in your favor. We can all be great seducers, we just have to find that inner light that enlivens our charisma and makes us gain confidence and self-esteem. As I said Oscar Wilde one of the most notable seducers in history, “loving yourself is the beginning of an adventure that lasts.” lifetime”.
But, first of all, take a look at this article: “10 ways to be more attractive (scientifically proven)”
Next we will discover the 9 (plus 1) archetypes of seduction to begin this journey to self-knowledge and personal development.
1. The Mermaid
Inaccessible, divine, charming. There is only one in a group of friends. She is close and at the same time distant. She is the muse of poets, the girl who makes rulers lose their minds. Robert Greene says that Cleopatra was one of them. We will detect a Mermaid by her gestures, her delicacy, her way of dressing, very similar to that of the goddesses.
2. The Libertine
Closely associated with the figure of the “thug”, it makes you live unique experiences. Among the different types of seducer, the tough guy never goes out of style. Transgressive and confident, he knows that his charm is born from the most primal instincts. He lives on the edge, breaking all the rules so that the adrenaline runs through your body. If he has to kiss, he kisses with confidence. If he has to look at you he goes deep inside you. He is capable of making you commit all the crazy things you can’t imagine because next to him nothing can happen to you.
Illusionist expert; everything in it is artifice. He creates perfect, seamless romances. He is able to make women feel comfortable and desired. Everything in it is a function written to seduce the most demanding ladies. He masters the context, knows how to speak, but above all listen. Everything is perfect because he makes it perfect. If he invites you to a dinner he will delight you with his best cooking skills; If he invites you for a walk, he will choose the best landscape, the best decoration.
4. The Dandy
Unclassifiable, androgynous, elegant, ironic… like the Libertine, it will make you feel free. He is one of the most dynamic and unpredictable types of seducer. He plays with masculinity and femininity. You can never define it because when you think about it, it has already changed. They use his physical appearance to suggest, like the Mermaid. He perfectly masters social skills as the Ideal Lover, but when you try to classify him, he disappears. If you try to understand it you get confused… Robert Greene says that Rudolph Valentino He was one of the most important Dandys.
5. Candide
He is a naive and playful child. Society has not managed to tame it. Mozart was one of them. He makes the difficult look easy. For him everything seems like a game. The candid has the harmless charm of babies and the subversive gifts of the rogue. He possesses a magnetic unconsciousness. It is impossible to get angry with him because he has no malice.
This archetype is attributed to girls but flirts can also exist. When you go, she comes back Cancel appointments. It appears at the most unexpected moment. He is always late for his appointments if he hasn’t decided to stand you up. The more he manages to get your attention, the less he wants it. If you chase her you are lost. If you try to ignore it you will despair.
7. The Charmer
The seduction without sex He will give you what you want without asking for anything in return. She will know how to flatter you and make you feel comfortable. Master the context and you will feel that with it you can be calm. He will not do or say anything that could expose you. It seems that he is not interested in sex, you will not distrust him. They show themselves as a friend; They understand you, they listen to you, they help you, they know how to advise you and make you happy. All this ploy will help you appreciate them and ask yourself a question: does he like me or doesn’t he like me? Sometimes it will seem like it is and sometimes it will seem like you are just friends. But the truth is that if you ask yourself this question you will have already fallen into their traps.
8. The Charismatic
It is the center of attention. Everyone wants to be close to him because he is a source of laughter and fun Nobody gets bored around her. It’s easy to spot him because at parties he always has a lot of people around him listening to him and laughing at his jokes. He is safe and confident. He knows how to excite. When he speaks he does not inform, he inspires. He would be a great politician or a great comedian or a great storyteller. He masters the art of communication. He has all those attributes that others don’t have.
Attractive and stylish. They have a life that others don’t have. It is the archetype of celebrities. His unique and unusual life is a magnet for everyone. His life is eccentric and always surprises you. Go into places they would never let you in if you didn’t go with him. But not everything in it is luxury. It is also passion for your own life and your abilities. Being by his side will make you escape from the mundane and vulgar. He will make you live endless experiences that only he can offer you. The archetype of the Star is synonymous with glamour.
These are the archetypes defined by Robert Greene in The Art of Seduction. You will have to discover which one resides in you. Explore yourself and analyze which one you fit into. We all fit into one of them. And if not, then surely we are fitting into this last archetype.
10. The Anti-seducer
Insecure, egocentric, not very empathetic: repellent. They don’t know how to communicate. They are angry at the world. They have little or no mastery of social skills. They don’t know when they are left over. They don’t know when they are needed. They are inappropriate. They speak when they shouldn’t and are silent when they have to speak. They are overconfident or, on the contrary, they have no confidence at all.
Luckily one can escape this archetype. You just have to enhance personal charisma and social skills. A good way to start is to work on self-esteem and overcome shyness. And another way is to take a look at my article on ‘How not to flirt’.
