How To Achieve Your Goals In 2020: 3 Essential Questions That No One Asks You
First of all: happy new year!
The new year is a special time to set goals and resolutions, but you already know what happens with all of this: they are usually not fulfilled (or almost never).
Setting goals or trying to achieve new goals in your life involves a process of change If not, why didn’t you get it sooner? A process of change implies a psychological and emotional transformation beyond the desire we have to achieve these changes.
Having a purpose or wanting to achieve a personal development goal (in relation to your well-being, your romantic or emotional relationships, your work, your projects, self-knowledge, self-esteem, emotions, etc.) is the driving force behind change in your life, since It involves a journey from the way you live now to a life where you want and deserve to be. It is the starting point to experience a profound change, an authentic transformation in your life.
Why don’t we usually achieve our New Year’s goals or resolutions? No matter how much we hope to achieve changes, they do not come on their own. We do not meet them because we do not know how to set the appropriate objectives; We do it in a moment of excitement, but then the “emotional January slope” arrives (we move away from the purpose because we believe that it is too difficult, complex, or that things “will always be this way”), and above all, because we do not ask ourselves the right questions.
In the last 10 years I have accompanied people from up to 8 different countries in their change processes as a psychologist and coach, and I have observed that in all these cases there are 3 essential questions you should ask yourself to make changes in your life (and that almost no one does to you). Now you will be able to answer those 3 questions.
The 3 essential questions (that no one asks you)
For about 10 or 15 years it has become very popular to set objectives and purposes, but we do not set them correctly, realistically or in depth, nor do marketing experts really know how to formulate them in relation to your personal development, since, what Is it really a goal or purpose? It’s just an approach that helps you change your life, a desire. A goal should not be something material, but a situation that implies that your life has changed
You already know what the common questions are to ask yourself a purpose or objective: What do you want to achieve? (this is the goal or purpose), What are you going to do differently? (a series of totally different actions in your life that bring you closer to that purpose, and not 10 or 2 are useful, but 3 or 4, more is too much and dispersed and less is very little), How are you going to do it? Where, when, with whom?
These questions can help you achieve goals in relation to small health or work achievements, but they do not imply an authentic transformation in your life and on many occasions, the fact that you do not experience a personal change prevents you from achieving them. There are 3 essential questions that we do not ask ourselves, and they are these.
Why do I really want to achieve this goal or purpose?
This question helps you get to know yourself better, to go deeper into yourself, and also to discover if your purpose is really yours or is influenced by your fears or society. What do you really want to achieve? So that? To what extent would it transform your life? To what extent does that desire come from your fear or does it imply real change?
You currently have a point of view about yourself and your life, and from that point of view you propose your purpose. However, a process of change implies that even your point of view changes, your values ​​and your way of seeing life change.
To what extent does that purpose depend entirely on me?
Many of our greatest frustrations are related to objectives or purposes where others are included This is precisely one of the greatest learnings of our lives: we cannot control others or the world, and they are not responsible for our well-being, our past or situation. You must focus on a purpose that is a change, and that change really depends on you to be able to work on it.
What part of me has to change to achieve this goal or purpose?
Here comes the key. If you have so much desire or enthusiasm for that purpose, why haven’t you achieved it until now? Because something in you has to change (your emotion management, your confidence, your communication, your relationships, your decision making, etc.). Therefore, That purpose is precisely what should lead you to that personal change
If you want me to help you discover your great purpose and be able to live your process of personal (or professional) change, I make you a special proposal: I invite you to schedule a free first exploratory session at empowermenthumano.com or on this page and give the step to get to know each other, discover what change you need and how I can accompany you. May this year be the definitive year of your change and transformation.
