That being in the middle of crowds with loud noises and intense lights becomes an experience that makes you uncomfortable, reflecting a lot on a topic or feeling other people’s emotions as your own are some of the signs that you could be a highly sensitive person.
High sensitivity is a personality trait that two out of 10 people identify with, as supported by the research of Elaine and Arthur Aron in the 90s, who describe it with certain neuropsychological and personality characteristics explaining this phenomenon by defining it as people who have a finer nervous system.
Changes affect them a lot More than other people, it can take them a long time to accept them and reintegrate again, they go through many thoughts in their minds to understand and justify those changes.
They think and reflect deeply, and also It is difficult for them to observe a situation objectively and detach themselves from emotions that they generate in order to have a clearer vision, which is why it is difficult for them to make decisions.
They are interested in topics of personal development, they are attracted to conversations about psychology, philosophy and spirituality.
They relate with great empathy, due to this, the perception of different situations and the emotional states of other people are triggers of emotions that they even feel are their own.
They suffer more than necessary due to this way of living and feeling life in general, they develop very deep feelings, nothing more with the mere fact of relating to other people and situations of daily life.
They have great admiration for art and everything that exposes the creative and romantic side of the world and humanity, they admire the intelligent way in which nature exists, as well as the creative expression of emotions captured in different forms of art.
They do not tolerate violence, they reject any form of violence or abuse, both in real life and fictitious in series and movies.
They find intense smells and noises very annoying, as well as places where there is a lot of light ; This saturates them, even awakening physical discomfort. For this reason, they need a lot of moments in solitude and tranquility, which, although they help them repair themselves, also leave them isolated and with little desire to socialize because they know the wave of emotions that they are going to feel again when they go out again to “deal.” with reality.
So, understanding that all these reactions and behaviors come from an intense experience of feeling, in addition to the perception of life through the model of reactions and ways of relating of the family and the society where we grew up, They can learn to create the environment that helps them and adapts to their needs so that they can live more fully, as well as open their minds to get used to a new way of experiencing emotions, since this is possible.
1. Learn about yourself by investigating self-knowledge
Focus on you to understand yourself better, knowing what upsets and triggers you, as well as knowing what you need to do to manage and repair yourself. Self-knowledge is the conquest of your true self.
2. Take care of yourself
Avoid what affects you and turn to what repairs you when you have had to go through a disturbing situation.
3. Prioritize yourself and say no
This involves telling someone that you are not good at helping them or listening to them on some occasions, since there are many people, who, due to the great capacity for listening and empathy that you have, come to tell you their problems, and this ends up affecting you greatly. Learn to say no, understanding that doing so is not being a selfish person, it is being a person who chooses themselves to maintain their emotional well-being.
4. Train self-awareness of your emotions
Do your best to maintain an objective view of situations. High emotionality triggers overflowing reactions, you can get irrationally angry, acting unfairly towards other people.
For it, record three situations that trigger an intense emotional reaction in you, and ask yourself: Is it necessary for you to suffer this way? Is it necessary to exploit this way? And explain to yourself mentally why it is not necessary. I remind you: it’s not about not feeling, it’s about what you choose to do with it. So explain to yourself that intense emotions do not necessarily have to create intense situations and discomfort for others. Breathe and act from love, respect and patience towards yourself and others.
Not everything they say to you or happens to you is intended to harm you, think of another interpretation of what is happening. Ask yourself: What good is it for me to think like that? And don’t let emotional kidnapping happen to you.
5. Always ask
Budgeting is one of the things that makes us suffer the most because we are forming ideas that harm us internally, so always ask, even if the question is not comfortable, remember that the ideas or what we think are not necessarily the truth.
6. Involve the body in creating the right environment for you
Make it help you feel good, having a balanced diet, respecting the hours of sleep you need to recover and feel lucid during the day.
7. Incorporate physical exercise
This It will stimulate the generation of hormones that will give you a feeling of well-being Exercise also helps us increase self-confidence and feel capable and strong to do things, having a better attitude towards different situations in life.
