Learning to know oneself helps to focus on the actions that a person carries out every day.
Thousands of people come to consultation without knowing who they are or why and why they do things ; When a person knows who he is, he knows where he is going.
The most important thing about a person is their personality, since this provides references for what to do in life, although it is true that there are some things that can prevent a person from developing their personality Here we will see what they are.
These are the main elements that prevent the correct development of an individual’s personality.
1. Overprotection
When people live in a home where overprotection occurs, There is no space left for the person’s being, there is no limit between a person and the one who overprotects so you cannot differentiate who is who.
2. Home without promotion on decision making
There are homes in which the members of these They are not able to make their own decisions ; One or the other gives their opinion or orders about what the other should do, which mostly causes setbacks and low self-esteem.
3. Members of the father or mother family who do not have their personality structured
When the father or mother does not have their personality structured, it happens that It is difficult for the child to be able to develop his own since firstly the development of personality is not a priority for said family and secondly there is no example model to follow.
4. Over involvement
There are other relatives, grandparents, uncles… who do not let the members of a nuclear family develop, since they tend to have an opinion on the life of each person. There is a lack of boundaries with said external members ; The limits are not clear and anyone comes in to give their opinion about someone from the other family.
5. Knowledge
Personality development is rarely promoted as such at home ; Perhaps many have heard about the subject, but do not really know all the benefits that this encompasses.
Advantages of developing personality
Among the benefits of developing personality properly, the following are worth highlighting.
1. Have motivation
A person who knows himself has more motivation for life
2. Focus
When someone knows who they are, they know what they want and where they are going. Therefore, there is a greater probability of success in the things you propose
3. Discipline
People who have already taken their personality seriously tend to carry out behaviors based on discipline that leads them to achieve goals
4. Transgenerational
When at least one family member has developed his or her personality, other family members also develop their own.
Possible psychological consequences of not progressing in personality development
When a person does not develop their personality, they experience failure more frequently, since their actions are not based on a coherent basis. Low self-esteem appears, which generates a series of complications: said person may become subjugated by others or may suffer ridicule, which could generate lower self-esteem. Thus It is advisable not to wait too long and go to psychological therapy so that the problem does not progress
There are also some disorders that develop when you do not have a good personal structure.
It is important to know that It is within the family where this development must be encouraged Each member occupies a place or rather called “role”; However, if this role is not clear and is not differentiated from one another, that is where it is not clear what place each person occupies.
For example, in a family it helps a lot to know who the father is (because of the actions carried out by the father) as well as the mother and the children; However, it is very common to find homes where the role of the father or mother is not completely defined and a son takes the place of the father. That child must always act as his child so that his development is optimal, as should each member of the family. Most crises that occur in a family are precisely due to a problem in differentiating who is who.
