Couples Who Go To Therapy And Work As A Team Are Happier
Living as a couple entails facing certain challenges that are a natural part of the relationship between two people with different life stories. Living in harmony and seeking balance between the two parts requires that both individuals manage to grow and adapt to the changes that will inevitably arise.
In my experience of more than 20 years I have observed that Challenges strengthen couples when they are faced responsibly and both people decide to work as a team towards shared goals
What are the main challenges that couples currently face?
Living in Cancun, this beautiful city that many of us call “paradise,” carries within itself the challenge of adapting in many ways: to the climate, to living far from family and friends of origin, to schedules and calendars that often depend on tourism activity, to seek a healthier lifestyle… And in many cases the challenge is even adapting to having a better lifestyle.
One of the main challenges that has arisen most frequently consists of take a healthy distance from your mobile phone and social networks The excess of cell phones in many ways has caused distraction and distancing between members of the couple if the appropriate use of the technology that we constantly have at our fingertips is not taken care of.
Regarding social networks, there has been an increase in the time we spend uploading photos and content, showing our dishes, dream trips or interacting with other people through the screen. In this case, The challenge is being able to disconnect and dedicate more time to “in-person” life and respectfully attend to the conversations you have with your partner look her in the eyes, maintain the dialogue with empathy and move away from the smartphone for as long as necessary.
It is important that we are the ones who have control over the time we spend browsing within any social network and not the other way around, that Instagram or TikTok dominate us with their beautiful photos and entertaining videos.
Another relevant factor that I have had to work with in recent years is that of young couples who arrive in Cancun and have one or two children, generally under 12 years of age. For “this team”, the challenge is to accommodate your work and personal activities in order to support yourself and get ahead with a dynamic that is as balanced as possible Nowadays, dad and mom share the responsibility of the children and in this city they must seek or create their support network so as not to neglect their relationship.
What are the benefits of couples therapy?
The main benefits that can be obtained when a couple decides to go to Therapy are the following.
1. Improved communication
It is not a myth, communication is the basis and is the essence of a good relationship In therapy, people gain tools to learn to listen to “the other” and express their point of view with clarity and respect.
2. Change the perspective of both people
Therapy helps you understand what is happening in the relationship more clearly and from the other’s “perspective.” During the therapeutic process, it is possible to stop the habit of looking for who is to blame and replace it with a work plan to reach agreements and commitments that can be fulfilled
Therapy improves self-esteem and quality of life in each person Consequently, it improves the couple and makes the relationship grow and strengthen.
Recommendations for people who want to improve their relationship
Above all, it is important take a break from the pace of life they lead, identify in time what is happening to them and act based on it.
When the lack of tolerance becomes present in daily life and anger begins to be more constant, when distrust “settles in the living room,” when they stop having fun or their sexual activity decreases, It’s time to go to a specialist that helps them resolve the crisis and reestablish their connection as a couple.
Currently, seeking help from a professional psychologist is just as important as going to the gym, a nutritionist or a specialist doctor to work on particular issues. Investing in our emotional health is a need that must be covered responsibly and which has the great advantage of being the catalyst that drives the necessary changes to achieve the objectives we want to achieve in the short term, thereby achieving a better quality of life.
