The Rule Of 3: What Is It And How Is It Applied In Relationships?
“Do not associate with snakes” When it comes to sharing your precious and limited life time with other people, there are many circumstances that you must take into account to avoid associating with snakes. That is to say… “If you sleep among snakes you will wake up with stings.”
Most people believe that judging is a bad thing and in fact, in the area of personal development there are times when confusion is created that judgment should be avoided and that we should try not to judge others and make the mind not. make judgments about other people. The reality is that the trial system is a fundamental and tremendously important system of survival.
When the mind judges that a food is bad by saying “this is bad,” you don’t eat it and thus avoid falling ill. When there is a certain temperature in your environment, the mind tells you: “it’s cold, I need to dress warmly”… and this way you avoid getting sick, or even dying from hypothermia.
When you are on the street late at night and see a person with a specific appearance, perhaps with a dangerous appearance, your mind judges it and this allows you to take appropriate actions to avoid suffering and avoid a dangerous situation, for example. “Judgments are neither good nor bad. They are essential for the survival and integral development of each being.”
What is the system of 3?
The important thing about judgments is that once the mind issues them, you must have a sufficient level of awareness and internal listening to be able to assess whether the judgment that your mind has issued is a useful and real judgment or a limiting and false one From this perspective you need to play and invent a system of valuing others that allows you in a simple, natural and direct way to see what “kind of people they are”.
A paradoxical paragraph: “There are no types of people…You will understand.” But there are people who can help you live a more fulfilling and stimulating life, and at the opposite extreme are people who drain you and what they give you are negative potentials and painful situations. Tool: The system of 3. In this system there are different groups:
• The 3 second group. • The 3 hour group. • The 3-day group. • The 3 decade group.
In a very simple way, the important thing is that you understand the message of said procedure, which implies that you must carefully select the people you surround yourself with, period. This will help you have a clearer focus on what type of friend, person or partner you have nearby at the moment. We develop this in the complete series of 7 books, “Open Your Eyes”.
There are people who are very harmful because of the process they are in, because of the habits they have, because of the pain they have experienced They are going to give you pain, limitation and what they have in short, of course. “No water can flow from a jar full of wine.” We can include this type of people in the group of “3-second people”, with whom by definition with 3 seconds of having them around, you have 2 left over.
That is to say, with these people the maximum is not to be with them for even a full minute, do you understand? 0 minutes.
There are other people who, however, can be harmful to themselves and to others equally, due to their specific conditions, but not in such a radical way. They also require special attention in the time you spend with them. It must be limited. They are the “3 hour people”. In “roughly speaking”, with them maybe you laugh, have a good time and feel respected Maybe you’ve known them for 20 years. Maybe one of them even saved your life in a situation.
That doesn’t matter now, if you understand that you are the most important thing in your life and that you must take care of yourself. Do you understand? Example: this friend I was telling you about who had saved your life years ago. You love him and you are grateful to him, but he is hooked on drugs and, very important! You can do nothing about it… Do you think that going with him will do you good and will give you what you want and deserve? You must try to help him with all your might, understand me, if he asks you for help. But if not, you should stay away. Otherwise he will infect you in various ways and none of them pleasant to you. Also people who insult you, belittle you, complainers, outright pessimists… Never again!
Regarding the “3 day” people; They are people who have their value system and who are working on themselves because they want to improve They have a lot to do but they are on the way. Surely they give you useful and beneficial things as well as other types of not so useful attitudes. But we could say that between what they give you and what they take from you there is a certain balance, which although it is not ideal, is good…
We get to the diamonds. The legendary “3 decade people”; They are the people with whom the longer you are with them, the more you grow, the more they contribute to you, the stronger you feel. These are the people with whom every time you are around you fill yourself with energy, they charge your batteries and you feel that you are capable of doing everything you really want. Being surrounded by them ensures that your mirror neurons will have the most efficient models to copy behaviors and thus create your life based on it.
