At the moment we find ourselves due to the coronavirus pandemic, psychologists do not want to leave you alone; My psychotherapy clinic does not close, and is at your entire disposal for whatever you need; We are working online and you can ask us questions at any time.
Working online is very beneficial for our patients, because we do the therapy from home, in a comfortable and informal way; Furthermore, in the case of couples therapy, the good thing is that since both members of the couple are at home all day (or a large part of the day if one of them has to go out to work), it is very easy for us to arrange meetings. appointments for both patients and us, professionals, and have a relaxed and unhurried session time.
For all these reasons, I would like to emphasize that Now is a very good time to do online couples therapy Online work is just as effective as in-person work and therefore, if you need it, it is very convenient that you continue with the routines and therapies necessary for your well-being without letting the inability to go out be an obstacle to this.
In the situation we live in these days, it is completely normal for conflicts to arise in couples, since we are living together for much longer, with new routines and within a context of a state of alarm. It is normal to face this type of conflict, and if we do not drag a previous crisis, we will be able to successfully overcome all friction or arguments that may arise.
Another thing that is different is that we are going through a delicate moment in our relationship This is when confinement is an unfavorable scenario for couples who were already experiencing some type of crisis or a previous unstable situation. Confinement can enhance this type of crisis and lead us to a very delicate and unstable situation, which will be greatly aggravated by the fact of having to continue living together in an imperative manner.
Therefore, I would like to tell you that if you are in this type of situation, think that it is the ideal time to do online couples therapy. We always have to see the positive side. As I have already mentioned before, it is an advantage to have more time, to be able to do it from home, and also to have more availability to put the exercises into practice in the time between sessions with me.
One thing I want to emphasize is the fact that In China there is a very notable increase in divorces as a result of confinement As happens when you return from summer or Christmas holidays, in our country there is also an increase in divorces after having lived together for several weeks in a more intense way.
In Spain the same thing may happen, that is, after confinement, there will be an increase in the number of divorces, but I would like to emphasize that separations do not occur due to the mere fact of confinement or an excess of coexistence, but are a consequence of crises that have been dragging on over time, of relationships that were already bad before, and that explode or worsen during confinement.
For this reason, it is very important to detect if there are problems in your relationship, if there is a crisis in the love bond, and thus know that we are willing to move the relationship forward. Confinement can definitively break our relationship, but if we do online couples therapy it is possible that not only is the crisis overcome, but that the relationship is also strengthened
Online couples therapy method
I am going to explain how we do online couples therapy. First of all, you have to know that therapy is carried out with both members of the couple, either separately or at the same time We use the Skype program, and we must have an Internet connection:
1. Cross interviews
What I usually do at the beginning are cross-interviews, one with one person and one with the other person, lasting around 15 minutes each. The aim is to cross-check data and see that the initial problem is really clear
2. Session together
Then we start having a joint session in which I give objectives, how many sessions we are going to do, what points we are going to work on, etc.
3. Tasks between sessions
Taking into account the current situation and the availability of each one, I am giving tasks to do between session and session in order to put into practice all the aspects that arise in the sessions focused on strengthening the weak points of the relationship.
4. Track progress
In most cases, with an average of between 8 and 10 sessions, the problem is solved.
A very important aspect before facing therapy is that the people I am going to work with are completely motivated and give 100% to solve the problem. If for whatever reason, I detect that it is not your case, or it is not your time, don’t worry, we will not start therapy, we will wait or look for other paths.
To know more…
You can watch this video, in which I explain in more detail the working method of couples therapy. As a psychologist, I am specialized in couples therapy work and in therapy with women who are emotionally dependent or with low levels of self-esteem.
Remember that in the coronavirus crisis we do not leave you alone, We continue with Skype sessions, which are just as effective as in person We are also doing live events on Instagram every Tuesday at 7 p.m. Contact us with any questions or queries using the contact information on this page. It is also possible to see more tips on this and other topics on my Instagram, and on my YouTube channel.
