Usually, after a breakup, one of the two parties may be left wondering if the other person still loves them. Love relationships are a complex topic, and the obvious is not always what it seems.
Sometimes couples break up and it is in that interval of time in which they remain separated that they realize how much they miss the other person, and decide to try again. Of course, this is not an exact science, and it is not what happens in all cases.
In this article we will review some of the signs to know if your ex still loves you , and we will give some indications on how to proceed in these cases. Of course, we must keep in mind that regardless of our suspicions we must always respect the decisions made by the other person, even if that means cutting off the relationship completely.
How to know if your ex-partner still loves you: several signs
The question of how to know if your ex still loves you is answered mainly by looking at the non-verbal signals that the other person sends. As the saying goes, “it is not necessary to speak clearly to tell you that I love you.”
Let’s move on to see what these signs are, but keeping in mind that love and attraction are not the same; It is very common for an ex-partner to still feel attracted to you and even want to have a relationship again and not do it for love but because she feels alone or to return to her old life.
If, despite having ended the relationship, the other person continues to be noticeable in your daily life and this is not due to their obligations or responsibilities, this is an indicator that he or she still feels attracted to you, and wants you to realize it
For example, if you meet very frequently in some places and this is not explained by the neighborhood in which you live or the circles of friends with whom you socialize, this may not always be coincidental.
2. Try not to lose contact
When the other person insists on maintaining contact after the breakup through text messages, calls to ask something trivial, and even more indirect contact, such as reacting to posts on your social networks, this suggests attraction. They are an indicator that that person could still have feelings for you
3. When other people talk to you about him or her
This criterion refers to when some friends that you have in common with your ex-partner begin to talk to you about that person in a suspicious way, as if they wanted us to do something to resume the relationship, with phrases like “you made a nice couple,” among others. others…
This particular behavior may not be coincidental, since many times when an ex-partner wants to get back together, He tries to get others to help him recover the love relationship he had before
Be careful: feeling nervous is normal
You have to be careful not to confuse nerves with a sign of love , in these cases. The uncertainty and ambiguity in which the relationship finds itself (once it has stopped being a couple) can generate anxiety, and that is independent of whether or not one loves the other person.
How should we act in the face of this possibility?
If we perceive these signs from our ex-partner It is normal that we can feel confused about it , especially considering the time that has passed since the breakup. It is always best to take things calmly, without acting hastily.
We must remember that although these are pretty clear signs that our ex-partner still likes us, there is a possibility that this is not the case. Furthermore, taking the time necessary to reflect on our feelings and if we want to give that person another chance should always be the first step.
After we have determined how we feel about the possibility that that person still likes us is when we proceed to clear up the doubt. Using assertive communication we will talk to our ex-partner and we offered the possibility of meeting in a quiet place. Once there, we openly express our doubt to him, and ask him to give us an answer. This will help close that cycle of uncertainty that possibly existed on both sides.
After having a clear answer from the other person, we express our thoughts and feelings about it (which we have already meditated on previously).
What will happen next?
Having heard what the other person has to say, and once we have expressed our position on the matter, we will feel that a weight has been lifted from our shoulders.
Regardless of the response that the other person gives us, or the response that we give to them, after that moment it will be much easier to get on with our daily lives return to our routine or find new ways of living.
Without the anxiety that not knowing clearly what was happening could generate us, even after having closed that cycle, the relationship with that person could evolve, and we could begin to see them with different eyes. A friendship could develop from that moment, or it could also happen that we realize that the best thing for both of us is to go our separate ways. In any case, the uncertainty and anguish will dissipate.
It is healthy for us to be honest with what we feel, but at the same time face the reality of things and see them as they are really happening, and not as we would like them to happen Final considerations
In these cases, the most important thing is to give ourselves the value we have, and not allow our own feelings to play against us. Many times it happens that the person we have fallen in love with is negative for our lives, and compromises our mental health. When this happens we must carefully review the facts, avoiding any cognitive biases that may exist, taking into account our feelings towards the other person.
Remember that your peace of mind is non-negotiable and that relationships are there to make us believe as people, not to limit us.
