This article raises a question that many people may have asked themselves: what must someone think when I stop looking for them? Different hypotheses suggest that, when you stop looking for the person, they are more eager to get closer to you. Sometimes this is what can happen, but I’m already saying that we are going to see that it is not the only option.
In the following PsychologyFor article we want to reveal the mysteries around What does a person think when you stop looking for them? We explain the consequences that ignoring someone can have and also some tricks so you know if that person thinks about you or not.
What a man thinks when a woman doesn’t look for him
What does a man think when a woman stops looking for him or vice versa? When a man feels ignored he may react in the following way:
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It may happen that the person, seeing you move away, start to feel the fear of losing you and get closer Perhaps until now I had valued you as a person who was “always there”, “accessible” and who did not need much effort to have you close. This can make the person settle into a more passive role and until they fear the loss of the person next to them, they do not get going.
Indifference
Although it is possible that the purpose of stopping looking for someone was for that person to approach you, it may also be because the person was simply, the person is ignoring you That is, you end up having the opposite result to what you intended to achieve.
At this point there may be two possible interpretations. First of all, the person has felt undervalued, rejected by you. lack of interest and this leads her to show an attitude of indifference, for having offended her feelings and emotions.
Secondly, this may be because they don’t really show the interest that you really expected from that person. That is, really he does not care to have or not to have your attention.
Inconvenience
The reaction when you stop looking for someone can be angry or offended, which has damaged something inside such as self-esteem. This usually happens in those people who, due to shyness or more introversion in relationships, find it a little more difficult to establish a relationship with someone. If that person lacks confidence to take the first step, The fact that you have stopped looking for her could mean the end of your relationship, whatever type it is. The feeling of undervaluation for having stopped being there will lead you to not being able to start the thread that unites you again.
Anger
Perhaps the person, feeling lacking attention, can respond in a more overwhelming way, as is anger. If you find yourself in a situation like this and you feel that the person you have stopped looking for is getting angry, first, ask for respect and then evaluate why you have stopped looking for them and if you see it relevant for the anger to stop, so assertively, you can explain it to them.
Does disappearing from a man’s life work?
Moving on from someone can work if we value the previous points. That is, if we detect that the person is not paying us the attention we would like due to lack of interest and this is because he/she feels “too accessible” to you, it can work, since you awaken in the person the feeling of “I can do it.” lose”. So, you have to adopt a proactive attitude towards the relationship.
On the contrary, if the person is not so attentive because his character prevents it, perhaps the way to attract him more is talk it out face to face with a sincere conversation In this article we offer techniques and examples of assertive communication.
How to know if he thinks about you
As we have seen, when you stop looking for a person, they may think that they don’t want you to go away and look for you. But it could also be that he doesn’t care and that the relationship is simply cooling down.
If you are in that process, you surely want to know if this person is thinking about you. There are different ways to know if someone thinks about you or not, and more so nowadays with social networks.
Searches for you on social networks
He always sees your images or posts and ever reacts to them. It is a way of wanting to establish contact with you again, in a subtle way and without saying it explicitly, look for a conversation thread with which to resume a more constant conversation.
Photos or messages on social networks
There are those who, to get the other person’s attention, upload messages or photos to social networks that remind you of the relationship, so that you can see that he or she is still thinking about you.
Ask for you
Perhaps you are part of a group close to each other and you know from third parties that they have been interested in how you are, how everything is going for you, etc. This is a trick to know if someone thinks about you. But beware! If you are or have been an important person for him or her, it is normal for him or her to think about you and ask about you. It is important to know the reason and purpose, because it could be simple curiosity or even a courtesy question.
Find conversation topics
You detect that he is asking you or talking to you about anything, he simply wants to start a conversation with you and try to regain contact.
WhatsApp photo
For some meaningful photo for both or both Furthermore, if he still wants to let you know more about what he thinks about you, he is going to change it at the moment you are talking or right after he is going to open it to you in the hope that you will comment on the photo or that you will realize that this photo has a meaning for both. Therefore, seeing their profile photo is a trick to know if someone thinks about you.
You may also ask yourself a very common question: If you think a lot about someone, does that someone think about you? In this article we explain why if you think a lot about a person, you attract them.
I stopped talking to him and he didn’t look for me, what do I do?
Next, we leave you some suggestions that could help you if someone has stopped talking and that person has not looked for you. Here are some suggestions on how you might approach this situation:
- Open and honest communication: If you feel comfortable doing so, you could start a conversation with that person about how you feel. Don’t forget to express your feelings and concerns in a respectful way and listen to what they have to say.
- Reflect on your reasons: Before taking any action, it is important to reflect on why you stopped talking to him in the first place. Make sure you understand your own feelings and motivations and whether it is worth trying to reconnect with that person.
- Give it time and space Or: Sometimes people need time to process things, so it’s possible that the person you stopped talking to is going through a difficult time and needs space.
- Consider their perspective: Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and consider how they might have felt about your decision to stop talking to them.
- Be patient: Not all people express their feelings or react in the same way. Some people may need more time than others to address the situation.
- Learn from experience: Regardless of how this situation plays out, try to take it as an opportunity to learn about communication and interpersonal relationships.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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