Do you paralyze yourself when you hear the word loneliness? Do images settle in your mind where you see yourself rejected, abandoned, tiny and invisible that do not disappear?
Don’t be too demanding of yourself, this fear of loneliness is what has kept humanity alive for centuries. The idea is engraved in your mind that your ancestors would never have dared to leave the tribe because they would have died. Being separated from the tribe made them very vulnerable because they could be attacked by some predatory animal, they could suffer from diseases, they could die from hunger, cold… but you do not live in this time and I assure you that you are not going to die from being alone. .
Change the script, change your dialogue, change your energy, think that being alone with yourself is temporary, it doesn’t have to last forever, take advantage of it and surround yourself with the good things about being alone with yourself and enjoy it.
Be very careful with the words you say to yourself because they are very powerful. Did you know that the impact that the words you say to yourself have on you is much greater than if someone else says it to you? I don’t know if you realize it. , but this is super good news because you have 100% control of what you say to yourself.
If you praise yourself, your energy changes. Tell yourself as many times as you can, I am wonderful, interesting, kind, fun, I have friends, a good life and I can be alone.
I’ll give you a hint, your mind learns by repetition, repeat praise to yourself as many times as you can and your mind will believe it. When you believe your compliments and can say them with conviction, you will meet someone because you will have understood that they are worth being with. With this energy you will be able to project your capacity to love because you will have recognized your gifts, you will love yourself and you will know that you deserve love and you will be able to tell yourself that you would rather be alone than with the wrong person or someone who is not good for you. yourself and when you can go out into the world with the attitude of “I deserve love”, you will find love.
Do you really think that on the entire planet there is not a single person for you? Love is everywhere, surrounding you at every corner. The problem is not where love is, but how you see love and how you relate to it.
In this dark moment, of depression, it is quite normal that you are not able to love yourself, therefore, you cannot project your capacity to love either, but this situation is temporary, change your perspective, prepare yourself and go out into the world with the attitude of “I deserve love”, because I assure you that you will find love.
Do not feel sorry or ashamed for yourself, as I say, being alone with yourself prepares you for a new adventure because it connects you with your purpose, with the clarity of your objectives and goals, this lethargy that you fear so much can help you understand what you want to find in your ideal partner and what your ideal partner wants to find in you, with this parenthesis you can go out into the world much stronger and with a wonderful version of yourself.
And when you’re ready, find love, right? If you want a job, you go out and find it? If you want an apartment, you go out and visit houses for sale? Well, if you want a partner, look for one.
Don’t throw in the towel, look for your partner calmly, the secret is to do it with the certainty that you deserve love and I assure you that you will stop being alone very soon.
Everyone can know that they can be loved because it is a mental job, it does not work if only others tell you, you have to be certain that you are a great person, who loves yourself and is worthy of being. beloved, the key is to believe it, just like that.
Bibliography
Peer, M. (2018). I am enough. https://marisapeer.com/books
