It is difficult to understand why a person feels incapable of doing what they set out to do. Those around him always believe that it is a matter of lack of will.
It is very difficult to excuse a person who never does what he sets out to do. It is very difficult to understand that it fails again and again. The normal thing is to classify that person as vague, carefree even selfish
The economic crisis that we are suffering gives many people a feeling of inability ; But in this article I want to focus on the psychological problem suffered by those who abandon the challenges that life puts in front of them. Furthermore, I am not only referring to work challenges but of all kinds, also emotional, social, etc.
Behind that feeling, avoidance disorder
I see in my professional day to day some patients who suffer “avoidance disorder “They are people who suffer a lot. They feel incapable to do what they propose; They would like to study but they don’t study, they would like to get up early but they don’t get up early, they would like to have social relationships but they don’t… they would want to work, they would want to do many things that they don’t do. It is difficult to understand them. Those around them criticize them, despise them.
These people are not lazy, their problem is absolute lack of confidence in your ability to achieve what you set out to do They normally have very little tolerance for frustration and when they have tried something; For example, passing an exam and they have failed, they have had a very bad time, that is what low tolerance for frustration consists of. Later, when they have to start studying, they think that it will not be of any use to them, that they will not be able to pass, that generates great anxiety and the way to combat anxiety at that moment is to think “I’ll study tomorrow”; In this way they reduce anxiety and do not do what they had proposed. These people procrastinate everything, although there may come a time when they begin to give up on their goals. His life is increasingly limited and his suffering greater.
Looking for a job, studying, interacting with friends, even getting out of bed can become a challenge for those who do not trust themselves, for those who think “What’s the point? It doesn’t matter, I’m not going to make it.”
