There are families that contain a large number of problems.
In them, the development of the personality of at least one member of the family is missing, since as this element is absent, none of the other members are able to have it unless they become aware of the lack of meaning in their life and start working. in it in order to break with a great dysfunctional pattern that exists in that family.
Maladaptive patterns are responsible for the tendency to walk in a circle and go through the same point over and over again. Given this, it is healthy to go to a therapist to analyze this pattern and be able to break it.
The personality that a person genuinely develops will help the entire family system evolve ; However, many times the family does not want to change and unconsciously and consciously puts work on those who will generate changes.
The system is blocked because something at an unconscious level tells the family members that it is time to change and they in turn prevent the growth of that family member since they know that by changing this one, everyone else will be forced to change and leave their comfort zone.
The family
The family is a first system in which behavioral patterns occur, which are practiced and then put into practice in other systems abroad.
In any case, there are patterns that hinder behaviors or patterns that help give fluidity to the person’s behavior and mind.
Interventions to get out of dysfunctional patterns
Let’s look at several forms of intervention to break these dysfunctional dynamics
One of them occurs when at least one part of the family system starts doing different things; In cases like this, the effects this has on other people must be reviewed.
Secondly, it is key to create patterns imagining the future and doing psychogeography. In the same space in which the person is, they visualize their future and future events. Once this is done, the person starts walking in that space (it can be the office or the house) and in this way they are breaking patterns through behavior and visualization.
It is also useful to draw a labyrinth or a path in which the person first sets the goal and visualizes it, consciously reviews how they feel and evaluates whether what they feel is positive. If what you feel is negative, you should stop until you find a goal that is positive, that generates pleasant emotions and transmits peace of mind. The most important thing is to see, to imagine the process step by step without wanting to do it all without having lived the process, since if you do it quickly, the person will throw themselves into the path like a runner who runs so fast that he goes forward and falls off.
Overcome the family crisis
There are types of families in which the genuine personality of each member is not distinguished, and there are families in which each member has a developed personality.
To help each person’s personality flourish, It is important to create dynamics in which each member of the family must be able to freely choose what they want Example: as children, children must choose the clothes they will wear, as well as distinguish which foods they like and which they do not (people’s tastes must be respected as long as this does not harm any member of the family).
Families go into crisis because there are times to evolve and change, and when at least one person “gets stuck” (the parents) the entire system gets stuck.
To overcome crises you must know that There are periods of change in families ; They are cycles, and as the members of a family grow, so do the minds of the family members change or should change. If a mind (father or mother) stops growing, it will block its partner and therefore the entire family system.
At least one person (father or mother) must continue to grow and develop on a personal level so that the other members of the family unconsciously do the same.
