Personal crises occur when we experience a change in our life and find it difficult to adapt A moment in which reality collides strongly with the expectations we had placed on ourselves and what we expected our life to be.
We feel that we do not have the necessary tools that allow us to fit into a new reality. That emptiness and insecurity that we feel leads us to ask ourselves questions like:
On most occasions, when it comes to a personal crisis, the answers we give ourselves are diffuse and this generates insecurity. A feeling of loss, confusion, that makes us feel misplaced and disoriented.
A stage opens in which everything generates doubt in us, uncertainty and we do not feel safe when facing the surprises that life brings us. Personal crises arise as a consequence of many situations (accidental events, health problems, social or family relationships, economic or love problems).
To help you understand what can make you enter a personal crisis, I explain two of the main fears that frequently occur and that push us into it:
Fear of abandonment/rejection
If in your life you have experienced abandonment or rejection (by your parents, friends or important role models for you), you are likely to develop this type of fear. To avoid facing it, we end up becoming chameleon-like people, that is, we show what we know will receive the approval of others.
This leads us, over time, to lose our identity seal: “Am I who I want to be, or how others expect me to be?” This is one of the first questions we ask ourselves, the answer to which, on many occasions, makes us enter this type of crisis.
Fear to fail
“The triumph of the true man arises from the ashes of error.” This quote from Pablo Neruda invites us to reflect on the concept we have of failure. For many people, failure is accompanied by “I am not capable”; “I’m not good for this”, “I’ll never get it” and a long etcetera that only causes a distortion of reality.
It is necessary to work on this concept and understand that to make a mistake is to learn, and learning is evolving. A personal crisis can arise as a result of not moving forward in your life for fear of making mistakes and reaffirming that you are not prepared to lead change.
However, we must understand a personal crisis as part of our evolution It allows us to adapt to the different stages of our lives, helps us stop time and rethink our priorities and needs. It also allows us to analyze where we want to lead our life and what objectives we want to achieve along with the limits that will allow us to have control of our happiness and well-being.
To do?
When you feel that you may be going through a personal crisis, it will help you to keep the following aspects in mind:
1. Prioritize yourself
Take time for yourself, you need to find yourself, connect with you to be able to project to the world who and how you are. Find a moment each day when you can relax and focus on yourself.
Sometimes we find some relief by sharing our concerns with people who know us very well. Maybe they They can help us take a tour of our life path and remind us what characterizes and defines us.
3. Read something about it
There are many self-help books that can invite you to ask yourself the right questions and accompany you in this process, where you can feel identified, and learn which are the main tools that can help you redirect your life.
4. Work on your self-esteem
Make a list of all the successes you have achieved throughout your life, from small achievements that may seem insignificant to you, to those for which you have fought with great effort. Then, in each of them, list the qualities you have that have allowed you to achieve it (discipline, perseverance, intelligence, skill, charisma, etc.). In this way, you will get to know a little more about yourself.
5. Look for a psychology professional
We are specialists in mental health, and Psychologists can help you find the answers that best suit you accompanying you on this journey of self-knowledge.
