Achieve the Life You Want

Since we can remember, we remember questions such as: What do you want to be when you grow up? What are you going to do? Are you going to be like your mother or your father?

Since we can remember, we remember questions such as: What do you want to be when you grow up? What are you going to do? Are you going to be like your mother or your father?

Perhaps some time later, in adolescence, you have reconsidered all these questions and stopped to reflect on your tastes, hobbies, aptitudes and personal preferences. With these data in mind, it is easier to decide the most appropriate path to make the dreamed future a reality.

The majority of us mortals, however, have moved forward without more reflection or information than that obtained in our educational center, which encouraged us or not to continue studying, the recommendations of our relatives and the immediate needs that demanded to be satisfied in those moments. Following in mom or dad’s footsteps was also a plausible option, usually always more focused on meeting your parents’ goals than your own.

In this way, it is not surprising that at some point in your adult life, moments of confusion and unavoidable life questions arrive, more or less suddenly. Suddenly questions like: Is this life the one I want? Why do I continue in this job that disgusts me? Does this relationship really give me more positive and pleasant moments than negative ones? What is it? What do I really want to do with my time?

Stopping along the way and dedicating enough time to consider these and other vitally important questions is worth it.

This way you can:

• Clarify your goals Clearly specify those things that you like, that bring you well-being and that you do not want to give up. Also recognize which aspects of your life cause you discomfort and assess which ones you can do without and which others can be modified.
• Define your projects The next step is to draw up a short, medium and long-term strategy that allows you to achieve your proposed objectives. Remember the importance of dividing your goals and objectives into smaller parts, so that solving each of them is a realistic and simple task to carry out.
• Visualize the future Having a change plan for the future allows you to visualize the situation you want to obtain, which helps you not lose sight of your goal and continue working to achieve it.
• Be constant Never give up. If necessary, start again and reconsider your needs and motivations, since these change throughout the experiences.
• Trust your emotions At this point your positive emotions, encouragement and motivation will be a fundamental boost for you, especially in moments of depression, fear or insecurity. Remember that you are clear about what you want and have planned how to get it.
• Look from different angles It is very useful especially for finding alternative and effective solutions. As Albert Einstein formulated If you want different results, do not do the same.
• Ask for help Don’t be afraid to ask for support when you need it. Sharing your emotional experience and your difficulties can be therapeutic in itself for the simple fact of letting off steam while someone listens to you and understands you. Furthermore, an idea generates many other ideas that can help you.

To finish we remember the reflection of John Lennon: “When I went to school they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I wrote happily. They told me I didn’t understand the question. I told them that they did not understand life”.