Danya started dating her boyfriend 4 months ago, at first everything was going well and they were very in love, or that’s how Danya saw it. Although she sometimes noticed some strange attitudes in him, which led to situations in which she felt bad and guilty about what happened, her boyfriend, curiously enough, always knew how to “make her feel better.” In the last few weeks, things in Danya’s life have not been going so well, she doesn’t know exactly why, but she feels very lonely, except for when she is with her boyfriend.
On several occasions he has realized that his life has been reduced only to his love relationship and that he has been losing contact with his friends and family Despite her personal problems, she feels that her courtship is going very well and when it is not, she feels guilty, because her boyfriend is in charge of holding her responsible for it.
Recently, they had a strong argument, in which her boyfriend made it clear to her that if her environment collapsed, she was the one to blame and he would be the only one who would support her, because as he mentioned, he is the only one who really cares for her. What Danya does not perceive is that she little by little loses connection with her surroundings because of her boyfriend and her life is reduced to an abusive relationship in which she finds herself trapped.
Situations like the previous one happen more often than you can imagine, since abusive relationships in which manipulation and dependency are involved are toxic for the vulnerable party. This article will address the generalities of narcissistic personality disorder.
Currently, interpersonal relationships have changed according to the values of each culture or region where they develop; However, the essence of these remains the same. An interpersonal relationship refers to the bond that exists between two or more people based on the emotions, interests or feelings that they can share together (FIDE, 2022).
There are various types of interpersonal relationships, but they are all based on values such as reciprocity, co-responsibility, etc. Now, the interpersonal relationship that could be classified as one of the most important are romantic relationships (couple) in which the shared bond is based on love, attraction and respect. Mentioned the above, When relationships do not have these foundations and their development is forced by double intentions, either on the part of one of those involved or by both, the relationship stops being healthy and becomes abusive
These types of relationships tend to have ups and downs, when they are healthy relationships, the problems are always resolved without looking for blame, since each person assumes their responsibilities and seeks stability based on the good of both and the relationship. Co-responsibility and reciprocity are always the bases for solving problems; in the end, the values and feelings that both people feel help when resolving the conflict. When the above does not happen that way, it may mean that one of the parties does not have the appropriate tools to do what is theirs.
An abusive relationship can be seen in many ways and in several of them the abuse is not usually perceptible, but it is present and is reflected in the feelings of the victim Almost as a rule, abusive relationships are made up of the abuser and the victim, rarely both are abusers, although it is the case.
The abuser is usually a controlling, emotionally abusive person, lacking emotional intelligence and manipulative, while the victim is usually a person who is easy to control or manipulate, submissive, innocent and unfocused on their environment. Relationships based on abuse can develop in a variety of ways, but usually occur because one of the parties involved has narcissistic tendencies or suffers from narcissistic personality disorder.
However, Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health disorder characterized by an irrationally superior attitude People who suffer from it constantly crave and seek attention, as well as admiration from others. They may have difficulty understanding or showing concern for the feelings of others.
Despite their apparent complete self-confidence, they actually do not feel confident and react easily to minimal criticism. This disorder has a negative impact on various aspects of life, such as interpersonal relationships, work, education, and finances. People with narcissistic personality disorder typically experience unhappiness and disappointment when they are not given special favors or the admiration they believe they deserve.
They may also perceive their relationships as conflictual and unsatisfying, and others may not enjoy their company. Treatment for narcissistic personality disorder focuses on talk therapy or psychotherapy
This disorder affects men more frequently than women and usually manifests itself during adolescence or early adulthood. While some children may display traits of narcissism, this is typical of their stage of development and does not necessarily imply that they will develop narcissistic personality disorder in the future.
As mentioned above and adding the example of an abusive relationship, narcissistic people tend to have attitudes that affect the people around them. Their behavior is due to past traumas without resolution, they apply a kind of “mirror”: that is, how they treat others they were treated. Their goal is to put the person down to continue their fantasy of superiority. Narcissists are dangerous people because of their ability to manipulate their environment as they see fit In many cases this goes unnoticed and the violence they exert on their victims is apparently harmless.
