Authenticity In Relationships: Why Can We Lie About It?

It is well known that Both men and women value authenticity and many times they can even lie about it. But what do we mean by authenticity?

Men prioritize physical authenticity Are those real breasts or are they push-up? Did he have a good time or was he faking it? On the other hand, women prioritize emotional authenticity That is to say, that what her partners feel about her is authentic or that she really is a self-confident person or who she seems to be. And so many men and women become amateur detectives

And so, women will ask the question of what do you feel for me? Giving more importance to the emotional part: the commitment and the desire It is common for the couple to perceive the issue related to the intensity of their feelings as a test or uncomfortable moment, causing many people to get out of the situation by responding with phrases such as “I have never been more in love with someone than with you” or similar phrases. Additionally, many women look for clues about their partner’s authenticity, searching clues that indicate if he is honest about your level of commitment, way of being and ambition That man who pretends something that he is not, who seems like a fake, will generally generate mistrust, ambivalence or even the feeling of having been scammed in women.

For their part, men want to know if the physical characteristics of their partner are authentic, and they want to discover if they really have the age they appear or their physical attributes They are real, Furthermore they also want to see authentic manifestations of sexual pleasure in women, which often leads them to ask the fateful question after sexual relations: did you have a good time? This is a time also prone to lying, since self-esteem can be damaged with anything that is not similar to “I had a great time.” Some women may even lie about their age when they exist. the belief that “the younger a woman is, the more attractive she is” Men strive to give pleasure to their partners because They believe that if they have a good time they will want to repeat with them and they will make sure they don’t go with someone else. If at any time the partner seems distant or apathetic, they will suspect: “If I’m not turning her on, who is?” And this is often mixed with the fear of gossip and that a supposedly poor performance or value as a lover may reach other people’s ears.

And that’s it for these small reflections on the importance we give to authenticity in relationships. And you, reader, have you ever found yourself lying about these topics? Do you think authenticity is so important? Please leave your comments on this page.

Thanks for reading me,

José Luis Miranda Fidalgo Certified health psychologist 22,738