In just a few years, the internet has revolutionized our way of living. Today we not only buy everything unimaginable through the Internet, but it It has also become a powerful socialization tool
Although 10 years ago we could look askance at those who became intimate through those rudimentary chats, calling them “weirdos”, today, in the new generations, the weird one is the one who has not had a date through the multiple pages of online contacts that exist. Whether you are looking to meet someone for a “here I catch you here I kill you” or if what you want is to find the man or woman of your life, the Internet has a lot to offer you.
What’s more, if what you want is to find the future father or mother of your children without it being necessary to maintain an emotional-sexual relationship between you, it is now also possible. So that you understand me, I am talking to you about the coparenting Being co-parents means that Two people come together with a single desire: to have a child together
I imagine that when reading this some doubts may come to mind, which is totally logical, since Understanding this new conception forces us to expand the relational paradigm In effect, coparenting separates the marital relationship from conception and upbringing, which is the antithesis of the parental style that humanity has been practicing for millennia: children as the fruit of a marital relationship.
I will present you an example that I attended once in consultation.
Eva is 39 years old and has been working as a team leader in a technology multinational for 10 years. Since then, her working hours have been tremendously long and demanding, which has been a major impediment when it comes to finding the man of her life. She actually did have him, but 5 years ago, just before getting married, he thought better of it and left her.
Since then Eva, She has lived focused on her job with the idea of being a single mother before she was 40 if she couldn’t find anyone He even went so far as to undergo tests to perform artificial insemination with donor sperm, but before taking the step, an article on coparenting fell into his hands in which it was mentioned on a website dedicated to satisfying this need. The idea of sharing the upbringing of his future child and also having a father figure at the same time seemed very interesting to him. He also valued very positively the fact of being able to share the expenses that this would entail as well as the time dedicated without having to give up the rest of the areas of his life.
Shortly after creating a profile, Eva met Álvaro, a 35-year-old gay boy who had been in a relationship with his boyfriend for more than five years. He had always wanted to have children p But for various reasons he ruled out both the option of adoption and surrogacy As soon as they met, the first thing they did was reveal their fears, “this is very strange, isn’t it?” they said to each other laughing. They both sensed that before taking the step they had to know each other deeply.
It’s more, they had to become friends two friends who would share for many years the upbringing, expenses and time involved in having a child much desired by both.
Being the child of a coparental relationship
On a psychological level, the newborn, child or adolescent who is the result of co-parenting There is no reason to have any special conflict as long as there is a good atmosphere between your parents and they assume their commitment , that is the only requirement. If the adults manage their daily lives well, then the child will be raised in the same way as any other child who is the result of a conventional and well-established couple. It goes without saying that the dramas that many children of parents separated in a conflictive manner experience are much more harmful for these minors.
In reality, coparenting is nothing more than the result of the changes that society has been experiencing for a few decades Just as current social freedom has allowed sex to be separated from marriage, it is not necessary to be a couple to share parenting, just personal maturity and common sense.
