Couples Therapy To Overcome Conflicts That Arise On Vacation
Vacations usually invite us to think about rest, leisure time or even fun and new stimulating experiences.
However, not all benefits; For some families and couples, this change in habits and the fact of spending much more time together can make conflicts worse. Therefore, in this article We will briefly review the ways in which couples therapy helps to overcome conflicts that arise during the vacation period
As its name indicates, couples therapy consists of carrying out evaluation and intervention tasks to provide solutions to relational problems that are affecting a marriage or courtship It is a form of psychological intervention organized into several weekly sessions that both members of the couple must attend, and which lasts a few months.
Conflict resolution is one of the pillars of this type of therapy, and is not limited to what happens during meetings with the psychologist; Part of our job as behavioral science professionals is to “train” people in skills such as argument management, proper communication, frustration and anger regulation, and more.
That is to say, going to couples therapy does not mean having the arbitration of a psychologist who will help resolve arguments during the duration of the session; It also teaches how to internalize and apply these skills at home, between sessions and once the psychological assistance process has finished.
How does couples therapy help overcome conflicts that appear during the holidays?
In couples therapy, personalized attention adapted to each case is always offered, and that is why Not all effective techniques and strategies are always applied to help overcome conflicts ; only those necessary according to what has been seen in the evaluation phase.
That said, let’s see what are some of the most useful and used resources in couples therapy to help people who argue too much or do not know how to give an outlet to their clashes of interests.
1. It teaches you to detect the material causes of discussions
Many times, when arguing, We tend to assume that the problem is in the other person’s way of being as if the cause of the problem were something that has arisen spontaneously in your mind.
However, in most cases There are elements of the environment or situation that cause, at least in part, that conflict and they make it easier for it to come up again and again in conversations.
In couples therapy, people are helped to pay attention to these signs that something may be influencing them from the context, and to take this into account (regardless of whether or not it serves to excuse someone’s behavior).
The ability to channel anger and frustration It is key to managing relationship conflicts well. Therefore, this is often one of the areas of intervention in couples therapy.
3. It allows you to enhance assertiveness
Many conflicts arise as a result of not having a good level of assertiveness, that is, the ability to say what is necessary at the right time, even though it may be uncomfortable or may make people feel bad, trying to adjust the message to what we know about the other person, showing empathy.
Sometimes, there is a tendency to not want to go through that bad experience and hide what is important that should be communicated so sooner or later it “explodes” causing arguments and unpleasant surprises.
4. It helps you combine your individuality with life as a couple
The holidays are a period in which it is normal for everyone to want to be able to dedicate themselves to what they like Therefore, knowing how to negotiate times and activities is essential to have a healthy relationship.
5. Train in the use of active listening
On the other hand, It is essential both to truly listen and to let people know that we are truly listening
Showing the other person that what they say has value has a great effect on maintaining that emotional bond. For this reason, in couples therapy we teach to follow the principles of active listening.
You may be interested: “Active listening: the key to communicating with others”
6. Teaches how to distribute activities fairly
Finally, another of the most relevant factors to prevent and manage conflicts has to do with do not overload one of the people in the relationship too much
Achieving a balance of obligations and responsibilities has a very positive impact on physical and mental health.
Related article: “The 14 main negotiation skills”
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