COVID-19, Acceptance, Confinement And De-escalation

COVID-19, acceptance, confinement and de-escalation

These are days of confinement in which we all usually think about when it will be over, what we will do once we can start going out “normally.” Governments are talking about a “gradual, staggered opening.”

At VillaRamadas we have done a study of the phases we have suffered during confinement and how we should prepare for “return to normality.” We are talking about 6 phases, a first phase of denial, a second phase of negotiation, a third phase of acceptance, a fourth phase of responsibility, a fifth phase of love and a final phase of gratitude.

The psychological phases of confinement

In this article we are going to talk about each of the psychological phases of confinement, knowing that at this moment we are in the fourth phase.

First phase: denial

Since December 2019 we have heard about a virus that is affecting China, more specifically Wuhan, located in the central area of ​​this country.

From Europe we barely listen to what is happening without giving it the utmost importance that it is a problem that “it is not our concern.” This problem seems to be getting out of control in China. Europe remains out of danger since it seems that the virus is not spreading outside the Chinese country.

January 31, 2020, the virus arrives in Italy (Lombardy) and Spain (specifically on the Island of La Gomera). At the moment there is no action, it is still considered to be a virus like the flu, there is no reason to be alarmed or to react to such a situation.

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During this time we live in a state of denial, We believe that what has happened to others cannot happen to us.. Our SELF only thinks that; We are different, we are stronger, this is just a case, it will be temporary, etc.

Second phase: negotiation

We see and hear so much in the news that we begin to think: is it serious? Is it so dangerous? But of course, this We only considered it when we began to hear the first cases in Europe. He has arrived in Italy, maybe he will arrive in Spain, or not. We are far away, it will not reach my province, my city…

Despite not yet accepting reality, we can only be heard talking about the same topic. And always with the same comments. But… if only about 3,000 have died in China, in Europe, which is better in terms of health and life expectancy, nothing will happen. More people die from the flu. Bah! That’s all a lie, I’m passing, I’m going on a trip to watch football in Italy. I’m sure nothing will happen to me.

Third phase: acceptance

On February 21, 2020, Italy closes 11 municipalities. On March 8, Italy declares a state of alarm throughout the country. On March 14, 2020, Spain accepts the problem and, just like Italy, declares a state of alarm. And so on with all the countries of the European Union and then the world.

The virus is a reality, we believe in the problem. We have a problem and we have to act. We accept it and react.

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We begin to take measures to be able to fight with what we have, there is talk everywhere about the virus and how we should act to avoid contagion. Additionally, several measures are taken; in order to solve the problem of the health crisis, to help people called at risk/vulnerable to promote hygiene and disinfection measures, etc.

Fourth phase: responsibility

They ask us for responsibility, and we give it. We stay at home, we only go out to shop for food. When we go out we comply with the regulations established by the government; social distancing, gloves, masks, personal hygiene.

The government, thanks to our good work and the fact that everything seems to be improving, allows us to go out with our children. We prepare to make them also understand how important it is to comply with the rules. From such a young age they understand that you have to be responsible.

Sunday, April 26, arrives and we go out with our children and we see that, in most cities, towns, etc., the rules are followed. We are responsible, they have trusted us and we have shown that we are capable. We begin to have a feeling beyond responsibilitywe are heading into our fifth phase of this process.

Fifth phase: love

We do not want to be infected and we do not want to infect, We no longer only think about ourselves or our family members, we think as a society, we want good for everyone. We think about what the families who have lost their loved ones may have suffered. We think of the professionals who have lost their lives in order to help the citizens of our country.

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We feel love, but a love that is not only based on expecting something in return from another close person. This love extends to people we’ve never seen nor heard of them.

We start to look forward to going to work, we like our jobs, we love our jobs. We begin to think that we are productive and capable of doing everything that we set out to do and that is proposed to us. Life is a challenge and we are achieving it. We love each other, we love each other as people, our self-esteem increases. We smile like we have never done before.

Sixth phase: gratitude

We have not yet passed the fifth phase, but we know that In that return to “normality” we will be grateful. We will be grateful to be alive, to embrace our family, our friends, to go to work and to be able to see our colleagues again.

Now seeing the sea, the mountains, walking, are acts that we did but that we did not appreciate in the same way that we will do it. Our life has changed, we have gone from a state where we did everything we wanted, without restrictions, without confinement, to a state where we have learned to see life with enthusiasm, joy, gratitude.

We have changed and with it we have grown as people, as a family, as a society. Now we are the privileged ones who can count on everything we have around us and we will know how to appreciate it in a way that we never knew we could before. Now we will look with gratitude at everything around us. We have reached a state of plenitude.