Demisexuality: What It Is And How To Know If You Are
For a long time there was no word to describe people who didn’t experience romantic attraction in the same way that most people do. People who only feel sexually attracted to someone after getting to know them better, spend time with him and form a strong emotional connection.
Finally a word has been created for this: demisexuality In this article we will talk about what it is, how to know if you are and the difference between demisexuality and panromanticism.
Demisexuality is a sexual orientation that is characterized by experience sexual attraction only after you have formed an emotional bond with someone This means that demisexual people do not feel sexually attracted to someone unless they have already formed a close emotional connection with that person.
So how can you tell if you are demisexual? If you identify with any of the following characteristics, it is possible that you are demisexual:
It is important to remember that There is no right way to experience sexual attraction If you don’t identify with any of the above characteristics, that doesn’t mean you’re not demisexual. Sexuality is fluid, meaning that people’s attractions and orientations can change over time. Even if you don’t consider yourself demisexual now, you may do so in the future.
On the other hand, there are famous people who identify as demisexual, for example:
Actress Evan Rachel Wood came out as demisexual in 2011, saying she doesn’t “really feel sexual attraction” unless she is “emotionally connected to someone.” Shailene Woodley has also spoken about her experience as a demisexual woman, saying that it takes her a long time to develop romantic feelings for someone. Likewise, actress Megan Fox has said that she is only sexually attracted to “one person in her life.”
What is the difference between panromanticism and demisexuality?
Now that we’ve talked about what demisexuality is and how to know if you are, let’s talk about the difference between demisexuality and panromanticism.
Panromanticism is a romantic orientation that is characterized by the ability to feel romantic attraction to people of either sex Demisexuality is a sexual orientation that is characterized by feeling sexual attraction only after forming an emotional bond with someone.
Thus, panromanticism and demisexuality are often considered two sides of the same coin, since both imply not feeling an automatic romantic or sexual attraction
Is being demisexual a problem?
No, there is nothing wrong with being demisexual. It is simply a sexual orientation that is characterized by not feeling an automatic sexual attraction to someone.
Some people may see it as a problem because they feel they are not “normal.” or “attractive enough”, but there is nothing wrong with being demisexual. You are as normal and attractive as anyone else. Accept your sexuality and be proud of who you are.
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The demisexual flag
The demisexual flag was created in 2010 by a user of the AVEN website (Asexual Visibility and Education Network). The flag consists of three stripes: gray, black and purple. Gray represents those who do not feel sexual attraction; black, to those who do not feel romantic attraction; and purple, to those who feel romantic and sexual attraction only after forming an emotional bond.
If you are interested in reading more about demisexuality, we recommend These books:
The invisible orientation: An introduction to asexualityby Julie Sondra Decker
Asexuality: The hidden sexual orientationby Anthony Bogaert
Understanding asexualityby Lori Brotto and Morag Yule.
These are all great resources that can help you learn more about demisexuality and asexuality.
Thank you for reading! We hope this has helped answer some of your questions about demisexuality.
If you have more questions, don’t hesitate to ask in the comments below. If you think you may be demisexual and want to talk to someone about it, AVEN (Asexual Visibility and Education Network) has a forum where you can talk to other demisexual people.
