Mental weakness is the biggest plague of the 21st century, the one that is not talked about in the news or educational training centers And I say it is not talked about because if so this plague would already be extinct. Thanks to my long experience working with adults, business parents, adolescents and children, I have discovered a repetitive pattern that is the beginning of behavioral disorders and alterations. If you are interested in your children being happy and strong, physically, mentally and spiritually, read this article and share it with those who you consider may be useful.
When you are a father you say I will be the best father! or at least I will be better than my parents were to me, in that attempt to be a better father for fear that your children will judge you, you make mistakes that cause you to achieve what you fear, that your children suffer and judge you.
Understand that if your parents had not been what they were with you and if you had not had those adverse situations, you would not be the person you are now “Hard times create strong men, strong men create easy times, easy times create weak men, weak men create difficult times.” Michael Hopf.
Parental love is fundamental and emotionally nourishing in childhood and adolescence, however, the fear that children will suffer puts parents in roles of overprotection and abuse of intellect, thus invalidating a child’s capabilities, creating immature adults. , and insufficient thought and action. What you are going to read is an illustration of my expertise and clinical practice.
Overprotection creates indecision, for fear of making mistakes they do not make their own decisions and easily become emotional codependents victims of their partner and friends, they have a low tolerance for frustration, they are impulsive, they have little patience, they are little or not at all empathetic, some have superiority complexes, egomaniacs (this occurs more in women due to lack of attention from the father figure in their childhood, although sometimes it is learned and other times it is a work necessity) they believe that the world revolves around them, little open-mindedness, they frequently fail in their marital relationships, which is why they usually feel insufficient.
How to manage this impulse
Overprotection slows down intellectual development, decision-making, security, and academic, work, and skill success because the mind programmed neurally and synaptically from an early age makes it think that parents will always be there to solve their problems by throwing tantrums and that they then happen to be their partner.
On the other hand, it is exhausting for parents who are hyper worried about their children, when they go out alone or with friends, to be at peace, they cannot sleep, they have catastrophic thoughts that something bad will happen to them, they say to themselves, if I don’t I worry I’m a bad mother or a bad father! They make excuses after the criminal results of the news to terrify about the situation of their children not being with them. As a suggestion, parents understand that nothing is terrible except death and death is part of life, so death is something normal and natural.
This article is dedicated to mothers, fathers and relatives or close people who collaborate with the upbringing of children and adolescents. If you want to know how not to be an Overprotective parent, you can schedule an appointment with me, I will be happy to help you.
