Do You Want To Have A Completely Happy Relationship?
Achieving a stable, healthy and happy relationship is possible In couples’ mediation sessions it is very common to find a series of common links that lead to discomfort and the desire for the couple to dissolve.
For this reason, many couples go to mediation to try to find solutions and help in this crucial part of our lives. That is why I give you a series of keys to achieve it.
These are the most important keys to keep in mind so that the emotional bond of the relationship remains strong.
1. There are no perfect relationships
This is the first key concept we are going to work on. All relationships have their weaknesses There is no perfect relationship.
Demystifying that concept will free you to work on your own happiness, since The important thing about a couple is not their problems but wanting to face them And this is the first key to achieving success, not having an idealized image of the relationship and outside of any logical and achievable reality.
2. You exist and you must have a space outside of your partner
Take control of your life. Your happiness depends on you. Having your own space is essential, loving yourself too
Your happiness can only be created by you; Therefore, if you generate dependence on your emotional state on your partner, you will enslave yourself on an emotional and behavioral level, potentially completely canceling yourself out and giving up your happiness.
3. Define the relationship you really want
Once you have freed yourself with the two previous keys, define how you can and want to be as a couple. What are you willing to give and consent to and what do you expect in a logical and realistic way? Set limits for both parties.
4. Communication
No one can read our thoughts. Trying to draw conclusions without being certain of it generates irrational thoughts far from reality that will make us suffer without meaning. Show empathy and actively listen
At those points where you need to negotiate, summarize what you have understood, without acrimony on either side and always trying to reach agreements, thus avoiding arguments. It is your partner, not your enemy.
5. Ask for forgiveness and forgive
Living without resentment makes us free. Try to understand your partner better, and avoid being defensive Welcome their signs of repentance and reconciliation. And, if you can’t, if you are always expecting the worst, analyze yourself. Is it worth always being like this? Why are you like this? Can it be solved?
6. Accept differences
It doesn’t matter what differentiates you as a couple, it matters what unites you. Whatever they are, negotiate and establish a relationship of equality where each party gives in to make the other happy. If one always gives in in favor of the other, an imbalance occurs which in the long run is neither sustainable nor healthy.
It is very important that you spend time with your happiness partner. Doing something that you both like and enjoy. A scheduled time to pamper yourself, take care of yourself, laugh, love yourself Once a week, a month, when you can, but you have to create that time and space that will unite you and make you strong to face the bad moments.
8. Practice gratitude
Well yes, a gesture as simple as saying thank you and recognizing what the other person has done well is something that fades over time. We stop giving thanks from the heart, and we stop valuing certain gestures, attitudes, behaviors… because we already understand it as part of the routine and we stop giving it importance.
9. Love without conditions
Don’t put limits on your love. You can’t be in that constant fight; You either accept your partner or not. Being at constant war will lead to chronic exhaustion and the death of the relationship.
Set limits, negotiate them, stick to them, and from there, relax and enjoy Everything can be solved if both parties are in balance.
10. Trust
This is the maximum key. Trust. If there are no reasons not to do so, there are no reasons to live with distrust. Demand it the same way for yourself If both parties respect the agreements of the relationship, they can live and let live.
Conclusion
Remember, a healthy and happy couple is one where respect, balance and trust are present. There will always be problems, it’s about solving them together It’s about helping each other above all else.
Never allow physical or emotional abuse, abuse of any kind, disrespect or controlling behavior. Couples are the sum of two people with their own identity, who although they share many things, must continue to respect their individual roles that do not threaten their well-being, and where each one can continue to develop and have their space.
Would you like to go deeper? Do you feel like you need help in this aspect? Contact me, we will get you the relationship you want.
