Does Physical Appearance Matter When It Comes To Flirting? 3 Reflections On Beauty
The sooner the world will end than we will stop asking ourselves this question: Does physical appearance matter when flirting?
It would be reckless to say no , that physical appearance does not matter at all and that the handsome and the ugly flirt equally. We only need to take a look around us to realize that the handsome are more attracted to the ugly than the ugly and are more successful when it comes to finding a partner.
Does being attractive make you pick up more? Does the physique matter?
But, What is it to be handsome and what is it to be ugly? The answer may vary depending on who answers. Fairness and beauty, many times, are very subjective concepts. We can affirm that such a person is beautiful or that such a person is ugly. But if we focus on what makes them ugly or what makes them beautiful, things change; It will be more difficult to answer. The same thing could happen if we show a group of friends a photo of a boy and ask them if they consider him ugly or handsome. Surely a small debate will be created about tastes, opinions and preferences.
Next, we will present three reflections about ugliness and beauty that will help you think differently and observe beauty from three different perspectives. Possibly, when you finish reading this article, your self-esteem is beginning to rise.
Let’s go out for a walk and feel the sun and fresh air on our faces. Let’s walk carefully observing the people on the street. Surely we see people of all types of gender, race, age and class. Let’s look at each one of them and try to determine if they are handsome or ugly. Let’s compare them, first, with each other. Let’s observe their eyes, their mouths, their body… Let’s walk around like judges in a beauty championship.
Next, let’s change the subject of comparison to ourselves. Let’s contrast ourselves with the rest of the people. It is possible that it will be easier for us to decide if we use our own filter as a filter. selfconcept According to our self-esteem, there will be more people in the handsome group than in the ugly group and vice versa. Finally, before returning home, let’s compare the people passing by on the street with the standards of beauty that cinema and advertising have implanted in us; let’s compare all the boys with Brad Pitt Things change, right? Surely the bag of uglies is overflowing.
2. Let’s reinterpret genetics
In The journey to love, Eduard Punset He explained very well what love is and its attraction mechanisms In his book he explained something that everyone knows: people are attracted to and, consequently, we see individuals with better genetics as more handsome.
According to this theory, people with better physique are the ones who flirt the most Therefore, people with the best genetics are the ones who flirt the most. But what is genetics and what is not? We tend to understand that genetic traits are palpable and observable characteristics: eye color, muscles, height, hair, teeth… but isn’t personality observable?
Perhaps, according to their actions and their way of being, do we not observe people’s behavior? Isn’t intelligence, cognitive abilities or humor also genetic? Just as we go to the gym to take advantage of our bodies, can’t we train our personality to make it more attractive? How many times have we heard from a girl “that guy was very hot until he opened his mouth”?
3. Darwin could explain a few things to us
Let’s remember and remember our school days. Who managed to flirt more, back then? The stages of socialization and learning mark us for life and it is in adolescence when we forge many of our beliefs regarding beauty. If we become evolutionists and remember what we were told about Darwin in school, we can understand why hooligans always flirted, boys who excelled in a sport or boys who were simply handsome because they had pretty eyes and beautiful hair.
Regarding why ‘tough guys’ flirt more, I think it is essential to read the article “Why do women prefer tough guys?” by the psychologist Bertrand Regader, in which he explains the personality profile ‘Dark Triad’ which attracts women so much.
The bad boy attracts, but it is a downward trend…
According to evolutionists, girls are attracted to males who can protect them and give better offspring. Although this theory is highly debatable, it has some truth. If we stick to this hypothesis, we can understand why in high school it was always the same people who managed to flirt with the girls they liked. The girls had families that protected them and they didn’t need anything else. They didn’t have to look at the smart kids. It was enough for them to look at the most handsome boys because their stability did not depend on them, at least financially. If we think about the previous reflection, For them, beauty was reduced to something superficial and banal because their needs at that moment were already covered on the other hand.
In summary, Beauty is a subjective factor that has genetic roots , but that we can work, either physically or intellectually. Beauty standards are references that we must take into account but, outside of the television, there is a real life in which we must live happily. Let’s not let the learning and beliefs that we generated in the past torment us and learn to understand the world in a new way that protects and improves our self-esteem and our self-concept.
More tips to be more attractive (even if you think you are not)
We recently published a post that may make you evaluate the topic of physical attractiveness from another perspective. In addition to everything we have already stated, you should keep in mind that There are some keys to being able to attract other people Experience and polishing some details can make us much more attractive when it comes to finding someone to share special moments with.
