Emotional Blocks: What Are They And How Can We Overcome Them?
He emotional block It is a psychological barrier that we impose on ourselves and that prevents us from being able to discern clearly in some aspects of life.
All of us, at some point in our lives, will notice these types of psychological blocks. When they occur, our feeling is of total loss of control over the situation and over ourselves. We remain paralyzed, without a response to the context we are experiencing. Our emotions kidnap us and don’t let us move forward. In today’s article We will try to discover what the causes, symptoms and keys to understanding this phenomenon are..
Furthermore, emotional blocks They have the ability to make it difficult for us to move forward when it comes to achieving certain goals in our lives.. We may be able to develop our lives normally, however, at some point in life we may suffer from a blockage. Some people, for example, are highly qualified in the workplace and, however, when establishing stable romantic relationships, they get stuck and are unable to develop as they would like.
Thus, others may function adequately in the emotional sphere and the opposite happens to them in the workplace: they cannot find a job that satisfies them. Or apparently everything is going well at the office, but they do not reveal themselves as they really are due to insecurity. This causes them to show a mask to others in order to feel safer, thus preventing them from being themselves, as if they were somehow emotionally corseted.
There are several signs and signals that can warn us that someone suffers from an emotional block..
For example, not wanting to act for fear of failure, not participating in events, feeling afraid of looking bad, fear of being rejected or not being accepted, shyness or shame, lack of motivation, pessimism and inability to see solutions to an obstacle, envy , jealousy, superficially judging others without daring to go deeper and understand what they are like.
Common causes
Fear and insecurity, and also feeling inferior to others, are the most frequent causes of emotional blockage. At the moment, The economic and social situation predisposes us to a greater extent to suffer this type of blockages.
This is because the collective perception of the negative reality that surrounds us influences us unconsciously as individuals who are part of a group, so we could be talking about There is a negative social atmosphere, in which certain values such as competitiveness and pragmatism prevail.. These values can collide with the need that we all have to feel included, loved and supported in the social group. In other words, when we do not find a social group where we feel represented and identified, we tend to suffer identity crises that can lead us to feelings of low self-confidence.
How can we eliminate the emotional block?
If our emotions are positive, joy, creativity, motivation and spontaneity arise.. For example, suppose that we have been unemployed for quite some time, that we are scheduled for interviews and that we always get the same negative response. This can cause us to believe that it is no longer worth the effort of even moving. Thus, without realizing it, we ourselves mentally predispose ourselves to the fact that emotional blocks prevent us from finding a solution to such a situation. It is a vicious circle from which it is difficult to escape.
In the same way, in our daily lives thoughts of futility and unease come to us, such as: “why am I going to go…?”, “I know they are not going to hire me”, “there are more qualified candidates”, “You will notice that I am nervous”, “with the time I have been unemployed and the age I am”, I am no longer suitable”, “I will fail”.
Fighting negative thinking
This type of pessimistic thinking blocks us in such a way that later, at the time of the interview, what we transmit non-verbally is unconsciously perceived by the interviewer. And if what you transmit is negativity… we are not going to be a very desirable candidate.
If you are not convincing with yourself, you constantly hesitate, you believe that you have no chance, etc., you are doomed to always remain in this situation of immobility. To eliminate the blockage, we must acquire a positive perspective on realityso that if you are emotionally well there will be no blockages and you will be able to express yourself more fluently. Try to think of things that bring out positive emotions.
Even if you initially feel uneasy, try to think positively, for example: “I am a very valid person”, “I believe in myself”, “if they don’t choose me, I will have learned from this experience for the next interview”… this way you will be predisposing new structures to be created in your brain that naturally guide your thoughtsso that what we mentally believe is transmitted in the image we give of ourselves.
Dismantling Murphy’s Law: bad luck does not exist
“Murphy’s Law” states the following: “If something can go wrong, it will,” so if the toast always falls on the butter side on the floor, it is because we are undoubtedly unlucky. The same thing happens if we extrapolate it with the emotional block, for example when we think: “they never catch me, I’m sure the same thing will happen in this interview.”
But nothing could be further from the truth. Murphy’s Law simply says: “If something can happen, it will happen.” If we truly feel empowered to make something happen, the chances of it happening will increase amazingly.
Reflecting on the blockages
There is a theory in quantum physics, called “Schrödinger’s cat”. This suggests that, at the level of particle physics, a cat inside a box with a poison capsule that can break at any moment will be alive and dead at the same time. This also applies to emotional blockage, If fear grips us, we will never be able to find out if we had achieved what we had in mind. So if we don’t have the courage to open the box, we will remain blocked.
When we truly believe we are capable and confident in ourselves, we transmit an aura of confidence that others, even without being aware of, intuitively perceive. Often something attracts us to another person and it may be that self-confidence, so you must take care of your thoughts and not let negative thoughts prevent you from progressing.
