Emotions At Your Service: How Understanding And Managing Your Emotions Can Change Your Life
Human beings are, above all, emotional beings. Quite contrary to what we think, we do not feel emotions at certain times of the day, but rather we are always excited.
Behind everything you do, think and interpret, there is an emotional state All our experiences, and also all our problems and conflicts, are totally related to your emotions. What would happen if you learned to understand and manage them to have them for you instead of against you?
From psychology, multiple efforts have been made to try to understand our emotions, what they really are, what they mean and how they influence your life. However, academic psychology, in its main objective to consolidate itself as a discipline, has studied emotions from a materialist and biological profile: a set of hormonal and chemical reactions, as well as facial expressions. But are they just that?
Experimental psychology rescues six basic emotions according to the results obtained in the laboratory (which studies both neurological connections and facial expressions): joy, fear, disgust, surprise, sadness and anger
However, our emotions are much more complex. Any of these emotions include a multitude of nuances, they vary in intensity, duration, frequency, and they condition us in different ways. Your emotions continue to be a subjective experience for you: what you feel, how you interpret it, how it conditions you, and how it can change. Have you realized that behind everything that happens to you in your daily life there are emotions?
In my work as a psychologist and coach, with more than 11 years of experience accompanying people in their processes of personal change, we always discover that behind any type of difficulty there are emotions. The reason is simple (I have already told you above): we are emotional beings. We feel emotions 24 hours a day (even when you dream you feel emotions). Therefore, your emotions influence you in everything: in how you behave, in how you communicate, in how you make decisions, in how you relate.
They influence your way of seeing life, your partner, a possible breakup, a problem at work, in a personal, social or family context. At the same time, it seems that they are always against us… fear, anger, anxiety, insecurity, guilt, discouragement… Are emotions really the problem?
A focus problem: your emotions are your best allies and not a problem
I imagine that you have heard or read expressions like “negative emotions” a thousand times, or “it is a problem to be too emotional.” The focusing problem we have with our emotions lies in these ideas.
We are emotional beings and, therefore, emotions are part of all our processes. We make decisions with our emotions, we fall in love through emotions, we also set limits or are aware of who we are through emotions. Self-knowledge, relationships, personal development are, above all, processes where emotion plays a key role.
However, we live in a materialist and globalized era, where we still continue to think about emotions according to that Cartesian duality that contrasts emotion with reason. But are they really dual? Emotion and reason are united processes, totally indivisible
Social prejudices such as machismo, xenophobia, homophobia, aporophobia, or simply having difficulties relating to others, undertaking a certain project or facing relationship difficulties, are not due to a difficulty in our reasoning, but rather because we do not know how to understand and manage the emotions that are behind all those experiences.
No, reason does not work without emotion. The most important decisions in our lives come through emotional processes. At the same time, we continue making the same mistake: we do not know how to understand and manage them so that, instead of being against us, they are for us. Because emotions are not the problem nor are they really negative.
Fear helps you protect your life, just as anger can help you know where to draw the line. Our problem is related to knowing how to understand and manage them And what happens when we don’t know how to do it? That everything that happens to us is more difficult.
That is where the basis of the vast majority of our problems lies: not knowing how to understand and manage the emotional process that exists behind the problem (which even conditions your way of seeing and interpreting it).
The solution: have them at your service
The importance of emotion management leads us to If we want to achieve certain changes in our life but we neglect this area, the table remains limp No matter how much we want to work with our beliefs, attitudes or relationships, nothing works if we do not go to the fundamental energy that conditions that experience. This is something that is evident in my work as a psychologist.
At the same time, I knew that the vast majority of information that exists about emotions (trainings, workshops, etc.) is not really useful if we do not apply real changes in our lives through a process of change. For this reason I decided to make a decision (also emotional): to capture everything I have learned in the last 11 years in a book. It’s about “Emotions at your service”
Emotions at your service is not just another book about emotion management or emotional intelligence. Is about a journey through your own emotions, which helps you think about them, discover them and learn how to manage them so that they help you know yourself better and achieve changes but not through general advice, but through your own discovery.
In Emotions at your service you can discover what emotions really are (it is something much deeper than we think), how they work, and above all, that chapter by chapter you can apply the changes you need in your life. We delve into your vision, your relationships, your work, and even the relationship that exists between emotions and health (and no, it is not the one we popularly believe).
Being a book related to your well-being and personal development, I believe that it should be accessible to anyone. For this reason you can easily find it on Amazon for a reasonable price. You can even get it in a Kindle version for free (if you are a subscriber) or for a very low cost.
I hope it helps you as much as it helps people who already have it Now it’s about taking that step that leads you to discover that what weighs us most, as sometimes emotions are, are actually the source of self-knowledge that can help you the most.
