Empathic Communication: What It Is And How It Can Improve Your Life
Most of the problems in the world that you may have in relation to your development as a person (or professional) usually have the same origin: a communication problem
We live with too many difficulties connecting with others, be it our partner, children, friends, clients, co-workers… Communication is a key skill to connect with others, but at the same time it is the one that most we neglect. And in this area, highlights the importance of empathetic communication VIn this article we will see why this is key.
Why is it so difficult to connect with others and is there always confusion and conflict due to communication? Because each human being interprets what happens to them in a certain way and according to their own filters, belief system and experiences.
All your experiences and way of managing and understanding your emotions (your fears, insecurities, guilt, desires, etc.) have made you see life in a concrete way, and that influences your communication. When trying to connect with another person, Everyone can give a very different meaning to what we say in such a way that it is very difficult for us to connect.
What do all these problems lead us to? On a personal level, it leads us to feel isolated, to live with constant arguments (this is common if the communication problems occur in the couple), not being able to express ourselves, having many difficulties saying no and establishing our limits, etc. These problems grow like a snowball going downhill.
In the professional field, which is no less important, Organization problems, low productivity and conflicts arise, due to non-transparent communication that conceals certain conflicts that must be faced and resolved. At the same time, if you want to start a business or work with clients or with a group that you need to positively influence (students, work team, etc.), it is essential that your communication be positive, excite and connect.
For 10 years I have accompanied people as a psychologist and coach in profound processes of change to overcome their problems and live with a more positive approach to life that allows them to achieve new goals. The surprising thing, and what I didn’t know when I started doing it, is that communication was so important. In practically 100% of cases, I found that I always It is necessary to work with the person’s communication to achieve real changes in their life (personal, professional, couple, etc.). In fact, if you visit Empoderamientohumano.com, the online personal development school where I can accompany you, you will see several processes to develop your empathetic communication.
What is empathic communication?
So, the apparent problem is actually the big solution… developing your empathetic communication. This is the ability to communicate in such a way that you connect with the other’s way of communicating, which generates empathy, trust and allows you to express yourself, understand and create more powerful and deeper personal bonds
It is, on the other hand, a skill that has several key characteristics:
1. Active listening
It is about listening to the other in such a way that you don’t judge him or interpret or value him, but that you really understand their point of view and respect it as their personal vision (which you do not intend to change or fight against). The opposite is making value judgments, and this is one of our most common communication problems. This, which can be so simple, is what is most difficult for us.
2. Adapt to the other’s system
Sometimes, to win you have to give in. In fact, if you give in you defeat yourself and the ego that does not allow you to connect with the other. If you adapt your communication system to the other (according to your point of view), you generate much more empathy. This is done through respect, using similar ways of speaking, paraphrasing, and other techniques that you can develop through an action plan and expert professional companionship.
3. Opening
In other words… it’s about not wanting to be right. Wanting to be right (even when you think you are) is just ego, pride, and doesn’t allow you to connect.
You may think: “If I give in everything, they will dominate me.” But that is also fear and pride With empathetic communication you are not dominated, but rather you understand, connect and can resolve conflicts and move forward.
Advantages
The advantages of empathetic communication do not only consist of resolving conflicts, but there are many more:
Your way of communicating It is a reflection of your way of thinking and seeing life If the messages you give yourself change, that approach, your actions and the life you want will also change.
2. It will improve your personal relationships
Whether with friends, partners, co-workers, partners, clients or children.
3. You will save yourself a lot of stress
The vast majority of the stress we feel on a daily basis comes from not being able to understand or make ourselves understood
4. It will help you in your personal or professional development, in any field
If you develop this very important skill, you will already have a pillar of personal development by your side.
Developing your empathetic communication is not something you can achieve in a couple of days, but it can be achieved in a few months if you have the right company. I recommend you visit Empoderamientohumano.com to take the first steps (if you want, you can ask me for a private session, tell me your situation and I will help you take the first step).
