It is clear that the situation of forced confinement to which the global pandemic has dragged us does not affect everyone in the same way.
However, there are relatively common problems among the population that have to do with the fact that, with everyone staying at home except for reasons of great need, our experiences tend to converge more than normal. And one of these most common experiences is loneliness.
In the following lines we will see some key ideas to know how you can deal with loneliness in a health crisis economic and social like the one we are experiencing.
Human beings are animals made to live in society, and this is also noticeable in our way of feeling and managing emotions. Any sign of lack of social interaction becomes a cause of strong discomfort if it lasts for a long time And in this sense, the confinement derived from the state of alarm due to the pandemic has meant that millions of people barely leave the house for more than a month, a period that is enough to feel very bad, in some cases.
Probably, when thinking about the idea of ​​​​people feeling lonely due to confinement, those who have been spending many weeks alone in their apartments will come to mind, especially those who do not go to work outside their home.
Although this part of the population will probably tend to feel lonelier than the rest, the truth is that this type of discomfort goes beyond these extreme situations (although not uncommon, unfortunately) and affects more people.
The reason for this is that we don’t feel lonely simply by not having loved ones physically by our side, but by seeing our social life suddenly limited. The change in habits when talking, asking for news, laughing together, playing and, in general, interacting , makes many people feel radically socially isolated. What causes discomfort is, many times, the contrast between expectation and reality.
Tips to manage loneliness during confinement
There are always individual differences and it is clear that each person is unique, but in general terms, it is possible to have several guidelines that usually help to manage the feeling of loneliness produced by a quarantine or other similar situation. They are the following.
1. Maintain a routine of social contact
With confinement it is easy to have disorganized schedules, and with this there is a risk of leaving aside the opportunities we have to talk to others (calling on the phone, making video calls, etc.).
Therefore, something as simple as setting a schedule and following it with a certain discipline helps to have free moments that we can dedicate to cultivating those relationships without feeling bad for not taking care of our responsibilities.
2. Express yourself openly
A crisis like this global pandemic creates a context in which it is normal to need the emotional support of others. That’s why, If normally there are no valid reasons to build a shell that hides our emotions, in a situation like this it makes even less sense : Friends and loved ones in general are there precisely to help in exceptional moments.
3. Don’t waste the potential of online communities
Beyond strengthening ties with people you already know, do not forget that on the Internet it is possible to meet more people, with the advantage that it is easy to find communities of people with common interests to ours
4. Adopt a distanced perspective towards parasocial relationships
Parasocial relationships are phenomena in which we believe we have a more or less close relationship with a person for whom, in many ways, we do not even exist
It is something that happens especially among young people, who spend a lot of time on the Internet exposing themselves to famous people who publish on their social networks (and videos) pretending that they are having a conversation with those who are on the other side of the screen, and even simulate friendship.
In most cases, this is just a marketing method to retain followers by promoting this parasocial relationship, but in some cases there is a risk that a part of the audience will begin to equate this false bond with a real relationship and significant. Paradogically, These types of relationships characterized by always being available produce more discomfort and loneliness in the medium and long term.
5. Take care of yourself
Staying healthy is an indirect way to take care of our emotional balance. If we do not sleep enough, eat poorly, or exercise, psychological problems will arise in one form or another, and the feeling of loneliness can be one of them.
Do you need professional psychological support due to the pandemic?
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