When we hear about the world of sports or business, the word team comes up very often. And a team is made up of people, who are what make the success of any organization possible. However, we go out and things may not appear that way; It is no secret that one of the most visible signs of the many problems that we as a society are having is excessive individualism
Both things seem contradictory; We increasingly want more personal autonomy, but our mouths also fill our mouths with expressions like: “I am part of a team,” “success belongs to the team,” which leads us to a complicated balance that makes our own existence difficult. AND To achieve those successes of which we say we are part, we refer to the so-called 5 C’s, which every team must possess to achieve results. They are very well known, namely: Commitment, Communication, Coordination, Trust, Complementarity.
It is perhaps in the marital and family environment where this dichotomy (individualism versus team) is most palpable, we want to be under a protective umbrella of something solid, but at the same time we are not willing to allow our freedom to be undermined. It is sometimes difficult to show that the family is a team, a group of people who have common objectives and set goals to achieve them.
And yet, it is possibly the place where the 5 C’s have the greatest capacity for empowerment and achievement of visible and beneficial results for each member of the family unit. Because? Let’s analyze the 5 c’s one by one.
Nothing in life can be done satisfactorily if there is no minimum commitment Everything you do in a forced or non-chosen way can result in doing things in a trivial way and in no way beneficial for yourself or an organization. According to Lehman “commitment transforms a promise into reality, it is an action higher than words, it is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism.”
In a family organization it is necessary that its members feel comfortable and happy at home, committing to achieve cohabitation agreements that represent a benefit for all its members, even being able to give up something personal. In some way, each member of the family nucleus is responsible for the rest and this is only achieved if the general commitment is based on a personal commitment to oneself. And this commitment must be eternal.
2. Communication
In a hyper-connected world at a technological level, the paradox arises that every time It is more difficult for us to have human communication naturally In a relationship, marriage or family, fluid, positive and active communication is key to strong and long-lasting relationships. And that effective communication or dialogue is born from the base, from the beginning of the relationship. A couple that dialogues from the beginning will be a couple prepared for communication with their descendants.
Babies must be given confidence in communication and dialogue from the cradle. Active listening, good empathy work, an absence of excessive criticism, using only that which is constructive, will allow a series of skills that are very necessary for life.
It is increasingly palpable the large amount of lack of communication that is seen in family environments and that is a seed of conflicts that if not stopped in time will lead to unwanted circumstances. But communication or marital dialogue is an art and as such, it must be learned, it must mature, it must be managed and it must evolve. Today’s world needs, more than ever, great communicators, not to large masses, but one to one.
The RAE defines coordination “as the action or effect of coordinating.” When we talk about a team being coordinated, we talk about there being a process and use of interdependent strategies and patterns among its members to achieve common goals For a team to have good coordination, someone is needed to execute it, a leader is needed.
In the family, that role corresponds to the father and the mother, equally and in unison. It means that are aware of the overall needs of the group and that they are consistent with what they think, say and do.
The great leader does not give orders, his coherence simply allows him to be an example and, at the same time, produces respect, he always seeks ambitious and realistic goals for himself and for the organization, seeking the maximum personal development of his members. That is why it is essential that the union of father and mother be strong, with clear rules and commitments. Only if the parents are strong, the family will be strong.
4. Trust
The family is a community of people whose sense of belonging is based on invisible ties based on trust that promote a satisfactory relationship. This will lead to a strong base of support for situations that occur throughout daily life.
Respecting and accepting each member of the family as they are, promoting a space of freedom and effective communication, will teach children true freedom that leads them to find the principles that direct human nature itself, understanding that freedom has limits crossed. which one’s own personal principles will be endangered, these are essential points in a relationship of family trust. It does not mean that the family solves all problems, but it does provide guidelines for expressing and sharing them.
Trust is based on credibility and respect Therefore, the example of the father and mother united solidly will allow the children personal and social growth that allows them to believe in themselves and the family.
5. Complementarity
A team is made up of a series of professionals who master a certain area because their qualities allow it and, at the same time, are capable of substituting for other members at specific times because they are also skilled in other areas. To achieve this, Cohesion and personal and collective responsibility are necessary in the tasks to be carried out In a family these elements are basic to create a positive and stimulating environment.
The distribution of household tasks, putting the skills of each member at the service of others by sharing responsibilities and results, will lead to achieving results and family harmony in a much faster, efficient and effective way. It is also a way to begin to instill in children from their earliest childhood the positive aspects of these actions.
