What should healthy relationships be like? Learn to identify them and make yours look a little more like a quality relationship every day.
I will speak generally about what is a relationship but not just any type of relationship, there are relationships that destroy people, that feel that they are not or were not like that, that feel bad about themselves, stormy relationships… A healthy relationship brings out the best in oneself, the feeling It is fullness, the 2 people grow together and provide more value to each of the individuals separately.
The general feeling is of well-being, calm, tranquility, security, love is tranquility, serenity and inner peace. (Please do not confuse calm and tranquility with doing nothing or resting while lying down, which has nothing to do with what I am mentioning, since I am talking about an internal feeling, not a behavior). Well, there are all types of relationships, each one will be different from the other. You have even been able to experience different relationships, since no two relationships are the same. And the ideal would be to learn, in each one of them, things about oneself, about relationships and more specifically about what one wants and does not want in a relationship. Today I will explain with what things one can feel closer to maintaining a healthy, balanced and prosperous relationship
First of all, I will establish 2 fundamental bases or pillars on which every healthy relationship must be established, if one of these 2 pillars fails, I am sorry to inform you that failure in the relationship is practically guaranteed, or at least a lot of suffering on the part of one or both members. Which can later lead to personal problems for one of the members of the couple. Those pillars are: trust and respect.
Trust understood here as the security of each of the members that His couple loves him and is faithful to him, as well as the confidence that there is complete sincerity between the members, that is, there are no lies of any kind, neither small nor large, nor omissions of the truth, or words disguised to make people believe what is convenient in that moment.
2. Mutual respect
Respect understood here in the way of treating people another person as a person, speaking as equals, without any type of aggressiveness, whether verbal (insults, contempt), non-verbal (gestures, looks) or physical (aggression with physical contact). Having the certainty that the person in front of you is always that, someone who deserves to be treated carefully so as not to hurt their feelings. Respect, or rather the lack of it, has the characteristic that once the line is crossed, it becomes easier to cross it and there will be a certain tendency for scenes of lack of respect to be repeated. Which produces in the other person a very unpleasant sensation, a feeling of unease, which undermines their self-esteem and can reach dangerous limits. Here I am not talking about abusers, which would obviously be the extreme of disrespect, I am talking about closer things, things that end relationships because one or no one knows how to control their moments of anger, or not knowing how to address the other person.
3. Share values
I have already said that these are the pillars, so they are a condition sine qua non for the healthy relationship that we want to build From here there are many other things that can complete a relationship, for example it is important that people have similar hobbies that they can share, the same way of seeing relationships, that they have similar expectations for the future (for example having children or not have them), that spending time together is pleasant, that both of them think of that person as the person with whom they would want to share their life (this is something that, although it is not possible to know what will happen, at least, the hope and the desire to want it to be like this in the present, are important).
The couple’s relationship grows and changes the two people are learning and getting to know each other and must adapt, for this there must be a feeling of always wanting to improve the relationship and a predisposition to change things that would be necessary to maintain the relationship, this must be in the In the spirit of both people, you have to know how to accept that there will be moments in which there will be no understanding but there must always be the desire to understand what is happening to the other.
5. Know how to communicate effectively
The discussions They must be an attempt to achieve or obtain find some solution for something, which is affecting the present in a negative way, to prevent it from happening again in the future. Accept that it is impossible to never hurt the other person, since we can easily hurt the feelings of another, but it is important to first apologize since normally, when you hurt someone, the intention is not usually to hurt them and only for that reason. deserves an apology, and secondly, realizing that things hurt the couple to try not to do them again, (most arguments occur because there is some misunderstanding on the part of one of the members or there are interpretations of ambiguous facts that we can interpret as they are not in reality). Another important and very extensive topic is communication within the couple. It is vitally important that the members feel heard and can have open conversations about any topic, whether personal, work, superficial… In addition to what is said, it is very important. how it is said and the moment in which it is said.
If we take care of all these details on a daily basis we have a large percentage of having a healthy relationship. You will notice that I have not talked about love. Yes, I will say that love is completely necessary in a healthy relationship, just as it is in anything you do in your life. But love is not a characteristic that makes the relationship healthy , since love is not enough to have a good relationship. This is very important since many people think that because they love each other very much, they are justified in continuing to maintain that relationship practically at “any price” and another day I will talk about what the feeling of love really is. Since there is a lot of confusion between what people think love is and what love really is.
