How A Narcissist Acts When He Sees You With Another

In the chaotic world of relationships, dealing with a narcissist can be complicated. People with a narcissistic personality disorder have difficulties building stable loving relationships that last over time. They show a noticeable lack of empathy to understand feelings and thoughts other than their own.

In this PsychologyFor article, we will provide you with information about How a narcissist acts when he sees you with another Let’s analyze a narcissist’s reactions to the evidence that you are not the only center of his attention. From jealousy and envy to simple manipulations, we’ll break down how these individuals handle the situation when they see you with someone else. This will allow you to adopt personal protection measures.

Anger and frustration

A narcissist may react with intense, explosive anger upon seeing his or her partner or someone else with another person. This may include verbal outbursts, aggressive behavior or even emotional violence. Additionally, frustration can lead the narcissist to escalate his manipulative tactics. They may resort to more elaborate strategies to regain control, such as lies, mind games, or emotional manipulation. To recognize them, in this article you will find some of the psychological manipulation techniques that they usually use.

Handling

When the narcissist sees you with another person, he can manipulate you to try to create a negative image of the person you were with, and make you feel bad for being with that individual To achieve this, you can take advantage of any social encounter to simulate the discomfort that the situation has caused you.

This shows that narcissists are skillful actors, since they can deceive several people through gestures and words that do not reflect their true feelings. In short, it is not only a manipulative act directed towards you, but it also involves the social environment.

contempt or disdain

Another of the predictable reactions of a narcissist is to resort to contempt or disdain as a form of manipulation. This can be manifested by disqualifications, comments that undermine self-esteem and attempts to create a negative image of the person who was seen with another in different contexts, among other tactics.

How a narcissist acts when he sees you with another - Contempt or disdain

Envy and jealousy

When in doubt about what your narcissistic ex feels when he sees you with someone else, envy and jealousy are one of the most common reactions. Narcissists usually have a strong desire to be the center of attention and receive constant admiration. Seeing someone else receiving attention or affection can provoke envy and jealousy.

In addition, it is necessary to mention that narcissists use defense and manipulation mechanisms, which consist of placing what they feel on other people. For example, a person who sees another in a situation of infidelity might have the tendency to blame instead of taking responsibility for their actions.

Indifference

When a narcissist sees you with another person, he may also show indifference to the fact itself. This It’s a way to put yourself down, since his pride has been damaged and he will do whatever it takes to show that he does not feel any discomfort regarding the infidelity that occurred. In the same way as with other behaviors, the narcissist’s objective is to generate discomfort in his environment to take advantage of the situation.

Resentment

Given any opportunity that is presented to him, the narcissist will try to expose that you have been with someone else, in order to that the environment has a bad opinion and make a value judgment. In this sense, resentment becomes noticeable and this type of individuals does not have emotional control over themselves, resulting in an unpleasant situation. In these cases, we recommend reading this article on How to Unnerve a Narcissist.

How a narcissist acts when he sees you with another - Resentment

Use of irony

Irony is a language resource that is used to express a message of annoyance and/or anger in a subtle way, using statements that, apparently, mean the opposite of what is intended to be communicated. On many occasions, jokes and relaxed tones of voice are used to avoid an explosion of direct anger. When the narcissist sees you with another person, it is highly likely that he will resort to irony as a means to highlight frustration and disappointment that has caused such a discovery.

This type of ironic reaction not only seeks to express your discomfort in a covert way, but it can also have the purpose of destabilizing you emotionally, creating a tense and challenging environment. Irony in this context becomes a manipulative tool that seeks to divert attention from reality and, at the same time, increase the emotional pressure on you.

Spread of false information

Spreading false information is a manipulative tactic that a narcissist often employs when they see you with another. In this context, the narcissist can resort to distortion of facts and the creation of misleading narratives with the aim of discrediting you and damaging your reputation.

When a narcissist is faced with the threat of losing control over another, they may resort to spreading false information as a way to regain power and manipulate the perception of those around you This behavior may include making up compromising details, exaggerating innocuous situations, or reinterpreting events to fit your narrative.

This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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