Someone loving you is not the same as you feeling like they love you. Had you noticed it? Each person has their own ways of expressing love! And each one feels loved in a different way. It is not strange that in relationships or friendships there are misunderstandings when we do not understand the way in which the other shows or likes to be shown affection
This task of understanding others becomes easier when we know how the 5 love languages are expressed. Do you know them? Today we will tell you everything! So give yourself the opportunity to improve your relationships now.
First things first: let’s understand where this classification came from. In the early 90s, renowned author and marriage counselor Gary Chapman identified 5 main languages through which people express and perceive love. These languages are:
1. Words of affirmation
The use of words to express love, appreciation and admiration is characterized Words of encouragement, praise and messages that reinforce affection and what is appreciated about the relationship are essential for those who have this language of love as their main one.
2. Quality time
For those people whose favorite language is quality time, love is shown by dedicating time and attention to the other person This can look like constantly making special plans together, making space for important conversations, or simply showing genuine interest in what the other person is experiencing and feeling.
Giving and receiving gifts is an important expression of love for some people By gifts we mean anything from a symbolic gift to a material one. Beyond the monetary value, it is about the fact that someone else remembers you and has chosen or made something especially for you.
4. Acts of service
In this type of love language, actions are very important Cooking, cleaning, or helping with projects and other details that make each other’s daily lives lighter are also powerful ways to express affection.
5. Physical contact
The fifth love language identified by Gary Chapman involves expressing affection through physical contact For those who prioritize this language, being physically close to the other person is essential to feeling loved and safe.
How are love languages expressed? Examples
Each person has one or more of these languages as primary For example, your main love language may be receiving gifts, but you also like to express it through gestures such as bringing breakfast in bed, taking care of someone, or taking on responsibilities that make your loved ones’ day easier; that is, through acts of service. That is why it is so important to know how others feel loved and how they usually show that affection.
Let’s look at more situations. If one of that person’s primary love languages is words of affirmation, it’s normal for them to love sending and receiving loving text messages, love letters, or constantly sharing words of appreciation and encouragement with others.
For those who value quality time, it is very important to open spaces to spend time together without distractions, plan romantic dates or have deep and meaningful conversations. For its part, physical contact can be shown through spontaneous hugs, holding hands when walking together, kisses or simply having pleasant moments of physical closeness Let’s look at some practical examples of how you can express love in the same language as your loved ones:
The best way to identify your primary love language is to observe how you feel loved and appreciated. Ask yourself: What actions make you feel that someone values you? It is also important that you pay attention to how you express love to others
Additionally, if you want to know how to make your partner feel loved, start by paying attention to their needs, practice patience and understanding in the face of misunderstandings in case you don’t share the same love languages, and most importantly, ask her! Talking to your partner about their love languages will be better than guessing.
Remember that all love languages are valid and unique. None is better than the other! The important thing is to look inward, see your emotions very honestly, learn to communicate them and, of course, to ask instead of assuming. If you still have doubts or simply want to confirm what your love languages are, you can take Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages Test
