How Do I Regain Trust With My Partner When He Gives Me Another Chance?
Some relationships last a lifetime, others end up breaking due to multiple causes, and also the case of those broken relationships that are reconciled again by the will of both members of the relationship. The first two often get all the attention because they offer “closed” and easy-to-understand explanations about successful and failed relationships, but this causes us to overlook the ability we have to rebuild loving and coexistence bonds.
To better understand how a relationship can get back on track, in this article we will discuss the topic of How the trust of the couple is regained after they have given us another chance after a crisis.
How to regain the trust of our partner after a crisis?
With the aim of regaining this trust, we can carry out a series of strategies to improve coexistence, practical guidelines that will be very useful to repair a broken relationship and that usually serve as a basis for couples therapy. Let’s see what they are.
1. Show sustained interest
Show a genuine interest in wanting to get back with the other person and not do it just to get their forgiveness It is an excellent way to start the path towards reconciliation for the couple.
Relationships are generally fixed by making the other party see that we have a real interest in repairing the damage caused and that we are willing not only to assume all our faults but also to change all the previous negative dynamics that precipitated the breakup of the relationship.
The will to change is demonstrated by the facts and this is precisely how It is also demonstrated in couple relationships that we are willing to change for the benefit and future of it
Going beyond words and taking action is the best way to take advantage of this second opportunity, and we must remember that the fact that we are granted it does not mean that the relationship will continue the same as before, but that radical changes are necessary. at all levels.
That is why we must demonstrate on our part that there is a total commitment and We are expected to put in extra effort in the first days and weeks it is not enough to continue with the usual routine.
3. Propose concrete solutions
Proposing concrete solutions to prevent the resurgence of the problem that caused the crisis is another of the strategies that we can follow with the aim of improving the situation with our partner and starting a new life with them.
This may consist, for example, of carrying out a more equitable and detailed distribution of household tasks if the problem was a flagrant asymmetry in them, proposing to make a detailed schedule of the days of the week and the household tasks that each one does, if no such thing was done before.
Each solution we propose must be realistic and adjust to the needs of the other person and taking into account the capabilities of both and must also be aimed at improving things that previously caused conflicts or problems of any kind.
Communication is one of the fundamental pillars of any successful relationship; That is why psychology professionals recommend training social and communication skills. to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings that may lead to arguments
We will achieve this by asking our partner if they notice progress on our part to learn from our mistakes and improve everything we can as we go, as well as asking for some type of indication about what we can improve.
5. Not being submissive
Falling into a dynamic of complete submission towards the other person is easy when trying to gain their trust, but it is highly inadvisable, since this would encourage mixing the need to rebuild the relationship, on the one hand, and the tendency to do everything the other person says uncritically for the other.
Even though we have decided to give in as much as possible to make the relationship work again, we are still people with our own interests and criteria, and we still have the ability to disagree when we don’t like something, always taking into account the common good of the relationship.
6. Analyze your own mistakes
Analyze your own mistakes from the past, reflect on them and learn from what happened as well. It will help us lay the foundations for the new relationship and commit to not committing them again
In addition to that, it is highly advisable to apologize whenever we have made serious mistakes that could have offended or hurt our partner at any time in the past or present, not treating them as if they were not important if the other person does not share that opinion.
In addition to repairing all the damage committed in the past and committing to change in this new phase of the relationship, we must also establish new relationship dynamics. that are based on sincerity and transparency
Sincerity is essential to regain the trust of the couple, especially if in the previous relationship we have had problems when it comes to being completely clear with our intentions in aspects that concern both of you. Without this ingredient it is almost impossible to make future plans together.
8. Go to couples therapy
A therapist specialized in the area of ​​couples is the most recommended option in case none of the above works, since will provide you with personalized support adapted to your needs
Going to a psychological consultation will help us share everything we want to talk about in a calm manner with both the other person and the therapist and in it we will also incorporate useful practical strategies to use in our daily lives and improve as a couple.
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Am Javier Ares General Health Psychologist, and I can assist you in person or online.
