Self-love is growing with yourself. It is focusing on yourself without becoming selfish, is working on self-care that you have for yourself. Of course, this process does not happen outside of our will and our emotional self-care strategies. You have to consciously work for this to happen, otherwise perhaps the correct maintenance of self-love is not being carried out.
Let’s see some here recommendations to enhance this psychological element
What prevents you from loving yourself?
These are several of the elements that hinder self-love.
1. Guilt
Many people feel guilt because they think they are selfish; There is a very thin line between self-love and selfishness but when it is love no one is harmed.
2. Criticism
People criticize very often: if you allow yourself to give yourself a gift or indulge in a whim, if you bought clothes, if you went to the movies alone, etc.
3. Not knowing
People are sometimes unaware of the term “self-love” and that means they cannot even put it into action and apply it to ensure their emotional well-being.
People put pressure on people to change and not be who they really are ; wanting to change the other is not ideal. The person himself must want to change for his own good and achieve his goals of self-realization.
5. Stereotypes
Society is very influenced by what “should be”, and that is where the personality becomes trapped in a kind of block. When faced with these types of experiences, thoughts such as “I don’t know who I am”, “I don’t know where I’m going”, “I don’t know what I want” arise… These types of doubts often arise in psychological therapy sessions.
6. Not having a focus on what you want in life
Not having a focus causes people to walk away from what is really important to them, goals. However, if a person has well-defined goals he will manage to have such a clear image of who he wants to be that he will become that person.
By visualizing goals, it is possible to activate the frontal lobe in charge of achieving objectives; It is very important to activate visualization to be able to see it as a movie of the life you want to have, so that the brain takes you towards that route.
Related article: “Personal Development: 5 reasons for self-reflection”
Steps to self-design
Choose who you want to be through this activity:
Love yourself just as you are.
Visualize what you want to improve about yourself.
Make a poster with images of who you would like to be (your best version of yourself).
Post the poster in a place where it is visible.
Look in the mirror and say positive phrases about your image.
Eat something once a week that you enjoy and does not harm you.
