One of the more difficult situations What a person can go through in a relationship is infidelity. It is a quite painful event in which the person we love betrays the pact of trust and fidelity that we had established from the beginning of the relationship. It is also considered a lack of respect so great that it affects self-love too much. It also implies recognizing and accepting that the person who is not only a partner but also considers himself a friend and a confidant and has betrayed us with another person.
It is for this reason and sometimes adding the fact that the couple has established many common life goals, in some cases they have children together, they have been in a relationship for many years, etc. that infidelity can even lead to depression. It is true that it is difficult to overcome depression after infidelity, however it is not impossible to achieve it either. In this PsychologyFor article, we are going to give you a series of tips that will undoubtedly help you know how to overcome depression due to infidelity
It is clear that the consequences that a person who was betrayed by his or her partner can suffer can be quite serious, such as suffering from depression. However, below we are going to mention the symptoms that the specific person experiences before starting. to be depressed:
Don’t stop thinking about what happened. The person doesn’t stop thinking about it and may begin to have thoughts such as: “How could he do this to me?”, “When did it happen?”, “I didn’t expect it from him/her,” “ I can’t believe it”, “Will the other person be better than me?”, “Does he/she no longer want me in his/her life?”, “Will I be able to forgive him/her one day?”, etc.
Emotional imbalance caused by the feeling he experiences of a lack of control over the future since he had surely imagined all or almost his entire life with that person and he did not expect that any situation of this type could occur that would interfere with his plans and ideas that he already had in mind for his future life.
Loss of vital sense since for the same reason that he already imagined his life next to that person and one of the strongest vital meanings he had was the achievement of the goals and objectives that had been established as a couple, now he has the feeling of “not knowing where to go”.
Outbursts of violence physical and/or verbal towards the one who has betrayed and/or towards the person with whom he/she cheated.
Sadness and anguish for the feeling of disappointment that infidelity has caused him since he did not expect that the person he loved could betray him
Depression
Sensation of emotional void
6 tips to overcome depression due to infidelity
Learn to distinguish pain from suffering. It is perfectly normal to feel sad after having gone through a situation as difficult as finding out that your partner has betrayed you, it is impossible that despite this we can be calm and happy, at least not at that moment and in time to come. However, there is a limit between the pain that is considered normal and the suffering that is caused by ourselves. But how do you know to what extent it is pain or suffering? The pain does not last as long as the suffering since the suffering is generated by ourselves when we resist accepting the situation, when we do not stop turning our heads over and over again and we consciously return to relive what causes us pain and Therefore it can last as long as we want.
Express what you feel. In order to accept normal pain and prevent suffering from being generated, it is necessary to let off steam, that is, not stay with those emotions generated due to infidelity which will turn against you. On the contrary, the best thing you can do is talk about everything you feel with a person you trust and cry, write, scream, vent in the way you can best. In this way, little by little you will get rid of all those negative emotions and prevent them from staying stagnant.
Live your grief. All the difficult situations we go through in life involve going through a grieving process during which we begin to assimilate the situation, experience it and also overcome it. Therefore, as I mentioned before, it is normal that you feel sadness and that you do not feel well at all at this time, keep in mind that in order for you to overcome infidelity you must take your time and live your own process.
Take care of your appearance. When we are depressed, on many occasions we tend to put aside our appearance and personal care, this causes a vicious circle to generate in us and our discouragement to increase. So the best thing you can do, even if it is difficult at first, is to continue taking care of yourself, grooming yourself, washing yourself properly, etc. since this way you will feel better about yourself.
Psychological therapy. Depression is an illness that requires treatment, so it is necessary that you go to a health professional to evaluate you and offer you the appropriate treatment according to your situation.
Stay active. Depression limits us and takes away our energy, the problem is that the more inactive we are we will feel worse and worse. It is necessary that you make an effort to stay active, even if it is just to go for a walk, this will help you a lot since every time you do it, even if at first it seems like it is not, you will feel better.
In this other article we give you more keys so that you know how to overcome infidelity and continue with your partner.
This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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