How To Stop Being Insecure In A Relationship

In order to enjoy a relationship and have a healthy relationship, it is essential to have confidence in yourself and in your partner as well. Otherwise, what could be a beautiful and unbreakable love story can become a constant source of fear, anxiety, jealousy, etc. Let’s see below some of the signs that could indicate that you are feeling insecure in your relationship:

• You feel fear or anxiety about the possibility that one day your partner will decide to leave you or end the relationship.
• You are very possessive of your partner.
• The lack of trust in your partner is a constant, jealousy surfaces even if there is no reason to support this distrust.
• You need permanent attention from your partner and you need him to continually show you his love.

The insecurity in the couple It can be motivated by various causes and to try to find a solution to this problem, first, it is important to know how to answer the question “why do I feel insecure in my relationship.” Among the most frequent causes, we can find low self-esteem and loss of self-confidence, fears of losing that person or suffering infidelity, jealousy, having suffered a past disappointment in love, behavior patterns learned at home, fear of abandonment and/or loneliness, idealizing the person we love, having a controlling partner who nullifies us psychologically, etc.

Likewise, there are many havoc that insecurity can cause in a relationship and if the issue is not resolved, said insecurity will increase, becoming bigger and bigger, it will bring problems to the couple and can even cause the The situation between them finally becomes unsustainable and the relationship ends up breaking down. Among some of the problems that insecurity can cause in a couple we find:

• Jealousy problems: On many occasions, people who feel insecure can feel jealous even when there is no reason to think about possible deception or betrayal by their partner.
• Lack of trust: Insecurity destroys trust in the couple, which is essential to maintain a healthy and alive relationship.
• Communication problems: This lack of security prevents us from being able to communicate well with our partner, expressing everything we feel and talking about how our relationship is going.
• Toxic relationship: Insecurity can lead to emotional dependence, which can affect our self-esteem and reminds us of living in a toxic relationship. If you feel that you are immersed in a relationship of this type and you do not know how to deal with the situation, we advise you to consult the guidelines that we show in the article How to get out of a toxic relationship.

If you like stop being insecure in the relationship and you are convinced that you want to continue sharing your time with that person, it is important that you dedicate time to yourself and put into practice the advice that we show you below, since this lack of security can be avoided with a little effort. Take note:

• If you frequently fear that your partner will leave you, lose interest in you, or notice other people, it is important that you try to analyze where these types of fears come from. It could be due to a personal story from the past or another circumstance that is causing your brain to send you these warning signals. Reach understand the origin of these fears It will help you overcome them and, later, you will have to think: what are the chances of this happening? You must convince yourself that a relationship is built from the free choice of two people to want to be together and share their lives, so if your partner has chosen to be with you it is because they are sure of it.
• Don’t compare your relationship current with the past, you must understand that each person is different and that each relationship is different. If in the past you have suffered disappointment in love, it is normal for you to remain a little afraid that the same thing could happen to you again, but do not forget that not all people are the same. Focus on enjoying your present relationship and don’t torment yourself by thinking about things that haven’t happened and may never happen.
• Stop thinking about what “could be” and focus on daily experiences with your partner. On many occasions, insecurity in a couple is caused by speculating or imagining things that could happen in the relationship. These thoughts are often motivated by other people’s experiences that we have observed, our own past experiences or social stereotypes.
• In a healthy relationship, both partners must have room to breathe You must place trust in your partner, let him have his space and avoid controlling him in everything. We are all free people to make our own decisions and we do not have the right to demand that person be or act as we want, or to live love in the same way we do. It is important to learn to accept your partner with their virtues and defects and love them as such.
• Establish as your priority the fact that Enjoy your relationship Get out of your mind the idea that at any moment the relationship is going to end, since only time will tell if the relationship is destined to last or, on the contrary, fade away.

If after putting these tips into practice, your insecurity in your relationship continues and you don’t know how to manage the situation, it is best to seek professional help and start psychological therapy that provides you with the appropriate tools to solve it. And if you feel that you are in a toxic relationship and that your insecurity is due to your partner’s behaviors or behaviors that do not seem appropriate or that hurt your feelings, perhaps the time has come to ask yourself if this is the right relationship for you. . Listen to yourself, be honest with yourself and make a decision to prevent this situation from continuing to hurt you and cause more damage in the future.

This article is merely informative, at PsychologyFor we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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