I Can’t Leave My Partner: Anxiety Due To Fear Of Breaking Up
Unfortunately, there is an increasing problem of not facing the desire to end a relationship because of the fear that that idea gives If it happens to you, the first thing you should know is that you are not alone and that many more people suffer from fake love.
In this article I want to talk to you about that dependent love that we experience towards someone that we cannot leave because they treat us well, they are a beautiful person, but unfortunately we do not have the strength to achieve that separation for reasons that we will see later.
The reasons for this phenomenon are diverse For example, it occurs in cases in which our partner fails in one area of the relationship (sex) but delivers in the others (leisure), or that we simply feel accompanied by him/her.
If something like this happens to you, keep reading to have some guidelines for behavior, but first let’s look at several key ideas to make the most correct decision possible and, if necessary, take the step.
The value of honesty in relationships
Faking love is not good, nor is it real, much less a good investment You have to feel love. Of course, it evolves and you are not going to feel the same after three years of relationship as you do after one month, we are not going to fool ourselves. When I talk about investment it is when you tell yourself that you are going to give yourself some more time, since perhaps you are going through a bad patch; Surely this is not a coincidence and you have been giving it a while longer (which must be around the year). Don’t fool yourself and stop extending the unextendable.
The patients with whom I have spoken about this problem always tell me that they are with another person who does not fulfill them completely for one of these reasons:
Before leaving our current partner, it is important that we do a good analysis of why we are with him or her Notice that many times we have convinced ourselves and adapted to a reality that is very false; The reasons explained above make us convince ourselves that we are making the most sense, but it is nothing more than a patch on something that will sooner or later take its toll.
It is important to be aware that being in a relationship involves a series of feelings or ideas that arise in loving relationships that are in good condition, and that they are the following:
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Key questions to guide you
Sometimes it is very hard to feel that the other person could have done many things for us, or that, for example, if we leave them, we are going to be very alone. Given this, you have to do several questions to start:
In conclusion, this type of behavior will only help us create false relationships given that sooner or later these types of couples end up in infidelity, and ending a relationship after that problem is quite hard and unpleasant, so it is better to find a solution as soon as possible.
Do you need the help of a specialist?
My name is Javier Ares, I am a Health Psychologist, and I help people with their relationship problems. If you wish, we can have an online consultation from the comfort of your home. I offer a wide schedule.
