Infidelity is one of the most serious wounds that a person suffers and produces a true cataclysm in the couple. It lowers the self-esteem of those who suffer from it and undermines their trust in their partner.
It can be stated that the reconciliation that is sought in the couple after infidelity has to go through a process of asking for forgiveness and forgiving. The purpose of the article is to delve into how the couple’s reconstruction process can be carried out in the context of infidelity.
Overcoming infidelity
The processes proposed in the article that will lead to the reconstruction of the couple are:
Evaluation of the couple and infidelity. The deactivation of initial emotional reactions. The forgiveness process, which can be unilateral or bilateral. During this process the decision is made to separate or to fight for the couple and rebuild it. In the latter case, we move on to the next phase. The reconciliation and reconstruction of the couple. With the rewriting of the base contract and the establishment of control methods for its compliance and the reestablishment of the bond and love in the couple. Evaluation of infidelity In the evaluation of infidelity Gordon and others (2004) propose considering a series of elements that may have influenced the appearance of the affair:
Aspects of the relationship itself, such as a high degree of conflict, lack of emotional warmth. Factors external to the relationship such as overwork, persecution by someone external to the relationship. Characteristics of someone who has been unfaithful, for example, not being comfortable with sexual relations, anger and punishment of the betrayed, insecurities towards them, personality disorders. Characteristics of the betrayed, for example, discomfort in emotional proximity, intimate relationships, developmental history, long-term emotional or behavioral difficulties. The process towards reconciliation: asking for forgiveness and being forgiven.
